im 13...and i see people whining and complaining that there parents wont let them do anything....in a way, they are lucky! my mom and dad are in the process of divorce...and i dont get along with my mom...so im living with my dad. both my parents are easygoing. they may say that i cant watch tv until i wash the dishes....stuff like that and i hate it. but i dont have a bedtime....i stay up as late as i want....i dont stay up late though cuz i know i need sleep...my dad doesnt make me do chores...and im not rich and a brat....im far from being rich. the only time i have to do chores is when i dont wash the dishes or something and i see they needed to be washed for like 3 days. my parents have never mentioned i cant date until im like 16. they would just let me....im not saying my parents are bad parents cuz they arent. my dad he talks to me about God and stuff and im in a private school right now...i just wanna know that they care about what im doing. how do i know?
2007-03-09 05:28:40 · 9 answers · asked by Teenager 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
what imean is... does my dad care that i may be doing something bad? he doesnt ask....i get good grades...im the NJHS. and he knows it...but that doesnt give him a reason to set some rules for me...i want rules...i dont wanna grow up and be undisciplined! i wanna grow up and be a responsible adult...i already am responisible and my dad knows it...but i just wanna know...is he taking that all my qualities give him a reason to not give me rules because i dont need them. because i do the right thing all the time? my friends have rules....they have to do this and that.. i wanna be like that! if i had all that stuff...in times i would hate it...but other times i would know that they are doing it for my own good because now i know what its like to have parents who dont even give me rules. please help me...how do i fix this..well its mostly my dad...my mom was the same way...but we dont get along and shes mean to me... so how do i know my dad cares if im doing something wrong?
2007-03-09 05:32:51 · update #1
some parents are more relaxed in the strict area. if their in the mist of a divorce maybe hes just a bit rattled right now or maybe its just a case of he knows hes got a good daughter that he can trust. theres a thousand of reasons. i know its hard to talk to your parents sometimes so if hes not asking the questions switch things around. try comming home from school and telling him about your day or asking about his. i know with my dad i get more questions when i talk about his day and get the conversation going. if that don't work just tell him how you feel. despite what our parents say they don't know it all sometimes we have to fill them in on whats going on in our world.
2007-03-09 05:44:43 · answer #1 · answered by Ashley H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's just because you are a really good kid and you haven't given him reasons to set down firm rules. Just talk to him. Ask him why or even show him this posting. If he knew how you felt, I'm sure he would be glad to set some rules for you and let you know more how much he loves you and really cares for you. Just be careful what you wish for, or he could go too far the other way. I give my 2 teens plenty of rules and have really high expectations of them, but I try not to go overboard because I had a crazy mixed-up & very disfunctional childhood. Maybe your dad feels the same as I do, or maybe he is just so wrapped up in his own problems that he hasn't stopped to think about yours. I happens all the time. Just let him know how you feel and remember that parents make mistakes and as much as we'd like, we'll never be perfect, but the love is always there no matter what!
Good luck to you and I hope everything works out for the best!
2007-03-09 05:52:35 · answer #2 · answered by F-1 says KISS IT! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and talk with your dad....I am willing to bet he has NO idea how you feel. Now is a great time to open communication lines with your dad ~ you will both get through the years ahead easier if you can communicate openly and honestly. Maybe you could start just by showing him the question you have asked here and print out some of the answers for him to read if you are afraid to actually approach him. I think he will be thankful and appreciate it. A lot of parents don't' know what to do during a divorce, don't know how to handle things and we forget temporarily what our kids are going through at the same time. We tend to think divorce is between the parents and only affects us, but that's not how it is. Let him know you want & need guidance. Good luck to you all!!!
2007-03-09 05:36:55 · answer #3 · answered by ohkathy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 17:35:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are a pretty responsible 13 year old, and he may see that as a main reason why he dosen't discipline you or give you a lot of rules. He trusts you to do the right things. Maybe you should try sitting down with him and asking what the rules of the household are. He might lay them out specifically, and that might help you feel a little better about the situation.
2007-03-09 05:37:36 · answer #5 · answered by insomniacprincess2002 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not strict with my kids. Because I'm not a police officer ( a lot of parents think they are). I have faith in my kids and trust, I believe. You are very lucky not to have oppressive parents. You should also ask yourself what your duties are towards your mother, it's not all one way. You are supposed to take care of her too. I think you are very kind not to be a problem to your parents while they are going through this difficult time. My parents were not strict either, because they trusted me.
2007-03-09 05:37:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my parents are apart and I'm living with my dad and my dad is on my butt all the freakin time. I responsible too so i be happy if i was you of course if you are responsible
2007-03-09 06:36:28 · answer #7 · answered by ms.watkins859 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because he wants u to like him better... now how u fell. my parents are getting a divorce too!
2007-03-09 05:35:52 · answer #8 · answered by tiara_bridges 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he sees that you are a good kid.
2007-03-09 07:10:23 · answer #9 · answered by Kreutzer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋