My husband's Aunt that he is really close to is attending, but now his cousins aren't because of school conflicts and work. Originally they said that they were coming, but now they can't. Do you think this is rude? Should I take it as bad like they have something against me? His cousins are like 15, 17, and 20 years old. The 15 yr old has a girlfriend (I think) and the 20 year old has a boyfriend (not sure). I only put on the invitation his Aunt and family. I didn't specify that his cousing could bring thier bf or gf. I don't even know for sure if they even had one or not, because I don't see them a lot and they are never at the family get together's. Could they be offended that I did't invite their BF or GF? or Am I just looking into this too hard?
2007-03-09 05:28:00 · 14 answers · asked by lc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i thk you are analysing this way too much....if they were coming believe me they will bring whoever they please kids are like that. BUT besides this, you should be very happy and not worrying about little issues like this.....start enjoyind this time in your life because in my opinion is the best time of a women's life...just remember that is all about you not about the 15, 17, or 20 year old thinking about attending or not
2007-03-09 05:34:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are looking at this WAAAYYY to hard! Your not obligated to invite peoples bf/gf's that you don't even know, heck sounds like you're barely acquainted with the cousins. The fact is this, they are 15, 17, and 20. It is a "selfish" time in life for young people at their ages, and it's on a weekend, thus mystery solved! Now go and enjoy, this is your time, don't sweat the small stuff, you'll have the whole rest of your married life to do that, you've only got one reception! I wish you happiness in your new journey!
2007-03-09 13:35:04 · answer #2 · answered by Green eyed girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are spending WAY TOO MUCH TIME worried about this!! You have reason to be celebraing and that's what you should be doing with people that want to celebrate with you!!! If their feelings were hurt, which I doubt is the case, and they don't want to come that's their choice. Understand that kids don't always want to do family things and sometimes they have things, such as games or school functions, come up last minute. Its nothing you should take personally. My cousin's son, the flower girl's brother, didn't come to the wedding and at first I was hurt but he is in 10th grade, just switched schools, and had a soccer game he didn't want to miss. I can't blame him. He has his own set of priorities. Relax and have a good time!!!
2007-03-09 15:05:57 · answer #3 · answered by Ambre B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you made a bit of a mistake but its just as much as your grooms fault as yours. You should of had a invitation for each seperatly with their name and each with a guest. Anyone over 15 should be able to bring a guest even if they dont have a bf/gf at least they have an option and dont feel left out if they do have one. You should call them or send them a email telling each one that the invitations got messed up and that it was suspose to be each of them can bring a guest. This way they can either choose to come or not, and not have any angry against it. It might not even be that, they might be really busy and cant come. Just make sure that they can bring a guest if they want and that if they do want to attend with a guest to let you know so you can have a seat for them both.
2007-03-09 14:19:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably looking too far into it. Some people just don't care to go to weddings (especially a teenage boy). And the 20 year old would probably rather spend her time with her BF than go to a wedding. Just a thought.
2007-03-09 13:32:42 · answer #5 · answered by MBN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These cousins of yours are hardly ever around for family get togethers and you rarely see them. So why in hell are you stressing so much over this? Especially for people you don't have a close relationship with anyway. There are much more important things you should be stressing over, especially with one week to go before that big day! Good luck to you. You'll need it.
2007-03-09 14:15:33 · answer #6 · answered by Kimmy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're making a much bigger deal of this than you should be. haven't you ever been in the position where you had to cancel plans because something came up? also, consider the ages of his cousins, for people of those ages, going to a cousin's wedding is not at the top of the list of priorities. you just need to accept that not everybody wants to go to your wedding, it's really not that big of a deal.
2007-03-09 13:38:52 · answer #7 · answered by LoriBeth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are looking for some thing that is not there. teens have their own agenda and their own world and u may not fit into theirs right now. the aunt might mean a lot to your fh and vice versa but the teens may not feel their cousins wedding is a such a huge deal :) i know we want to believe everyone feels we are the center, when we are, . congrats
2007-03-09 17:09:31 · answer #8 · answered by ray g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah, you are over analyzing. Although it was rude to accept then back out, I highly doubt it has anything to do with you. I would guess that the three were answered for by your Aunt without consultation and now that they were told they were attending they said they had other plans and commitments.
Good luck!!!! One more week to go!!!
2007-03-09 13:32:33 · answer #9 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nope they shouldn't be so offended if you didn't invite their gf and bf. because it cost more money... if they GF and BF bring and then others will be upset... Really If they can't come to wedding that fine.. you don't need to worry abou tthem and as long you have door open for htem to come and visit all that... I won't sweat on that...
It your wedding and you do what everyou want to do with it. If you tell me not to bring GF to your wedding and explain why because cost of money and if they are willing to help you with money that fine. smiling.
2007-03-09 13:33:19 · answer #10 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋