2007-03-09 05:20:40 · 15 answers · asked by maria c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Do you live at home? Then it's still his rules. You're 18 so move out if you want to be independent.
2007-03-09 05:23:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you live under his roof, you are bound by his rules. When you have your own job, your own car, your own house or apartment, pay your own bills, including medical insurance, utilities, rent, car payment, car insurance, food, clothes, entertainment, and other expenses, then you can be independent and do what you want.
Until then - try to compromise. Do some work around the house. Help take care of things that you're capable of doing. Then - and only then - negotiate for what you think is a fair treatment. That doesn't mean staying out until 6 in the morning every night, but it probably means being able to go places without leaving a detailed itinerary. But that's what the negotiation will decide. But that won't work until you can show him that you're mature, and responsible -that's what the chores are supposed to show.
Or you can just stop your foot, and whine that "I'm 18, I'm an adult, and I don't wanna do what you say". That'll show him that you mean business, all right.
2007-03-09 13:30:04 · answer #2 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you are 18. In the eye of the law you are able to be emancipated. You can move out. If you don't like the rules of the house, then move out. Now think before you act, there are rules out in the real world too. If you do choose to move out, you need a place to live, that costs money, that is rent. Can you pay it? You need food, that costs money too, can you supply it? You need transportation, can you afford that plus all your other expenses. Not to mention you have to buy clothes, supplies to clean your apt, that you rent, furniture, plates and dishes, TV, cable, computer, gas for the car, insurance, and many other things. If you can do that then go for it. If not, thank you dad for supplying what you need to live and shelter to live and food to eat. If he has rules you don't like, just think of how good you got it at this time. Just bide your time as in 3 short years you will be gone anyway. Stay there and be controlled. It will not hurt you. Unless of course your father is sexually abusing you and mentally or physically abusing you. Then contact authorities and leave.
2007-03-09 13:45:31 · answer #3 · answered by NIck N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and your question is? Do you still live at home? He is still your parent, and most parents decisions are because they love you and make their decisions based on your safety, health and welfare, not just because they want to "control" you. There are times when parents need to come to the realization that they need to start letting go more and allow more freedoms towards their child's choices. Sit down and have a non-confrontational talk with him. Preface your conversation with "you understand how he is watching out for your protection, health, safety and welfare", and then discuss what options you can both agree on in allowing you more freedoms so that you can grow into being an adult that has reasonable and good decision making abilities. Give your case some thought, have a cool head and then build your case by backing it up with examples from previous experiences that showed your responsibility, reasoning power and accountability.
2007-03-09 13:29:08 · answer #4 · answered by Inquisitive 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sucks when you feel your parents are controling. my mom use to make me be home and in the house at 10pm through the week and midnight on the weekends. at 18 i still had to have permission to spend the night at a friends house. she just had to know where i was every minute of each day and it drove me nuts. almost 10 years later though i understand it was cause she cared and worried about me. it just didn't make sense back then. i know how lucky i was to have a perent who cared about me and no matter how mad i got at her she did her best to keep me safe in a world thats nothing close to safe. cut your dad some slack and try reasoning with him. let him know u understand why and see if maybe that don't cut you some slack.
2007-03-09 13:30:26 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All parents should be in control of their Teenagers but something makes me think it's a little more sinister than that...time to move?
It's really not as scary as you think going it alone.
I had a terrible childhood and left home at 15...I went to a hostel...whilst I was upset, scared and alone I knew it was the best thing that could ever happen to me at that time.
Good luck!!
2007-03-09 13:27:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are living under your fathers roof and are not contributing financially, he has every right to insist that you live by his rules.
I had the same problem with my dad at 18, so I got my own apartment. Problem solved.
2007-03-09 13:27:32 · answer #7 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out.
Glad to see I'm not alone...my father's a jerk. The second I get enough money to I will move out.
2007-03-09 13:23:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you live under his roof he is entitled to it. Move in your own place if you want freedom.
2007-03-09 13:23:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's your father. That's his job. Move out if its unbearable
2007-03-09 13:24:00 · answer #10 · answered by biscuitperifrank 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋