I'm new in town and i only know some people and i got invited to this party and i don't really know anyone except the one who is hosting it...what can you suggest? how can i make friends easily?
2007-03-09 05:11:38 · 11 answers · asked by Chicken Noodle 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
One thing you can do is ask the host to put you to work. You could help out with whatever she has going on in the kitchen - or setting out food - or refreshing drinks - or whatever. That will keep you busy - and give you some conversation material.
Also - just ask other folks there how they know the hostess. Let them know how you know her - and then listen to their stories. Ask them questions. People usually love to talk about themselves. Since you're new in town - you probably have lots of questions - like the best restaurant - where to find cute cheap clothes - best place for fresh produce - whatever. Ask questions!!
Also - if the hostess is a good hostess - she'll be aware of your "new kid on the block" status - and she'll take good care of you.
Hope you have fun!!
2007-03-09 05:26:50 · answer #1 · answered by liddabet 6 · 18⤊ 1⤋
The answer to this question is within you really... If you are the the social butterfly type then you will have no trouble here, but then again would not be posting this question. If you are the wall flower type or a bit reserved it is a bit more difficult... Start slowly, pick out one person to approach, someone that seems to give off a vibe similar to your own... If there is alcohol at the party, you might try some liquid courage just to get you started, but don't over do it, being drunk will only make things worse... As far as guys are concerned, we are simple creatures. A simple smile is generally all that is needed to get one to approach... Don't be over anxious, relax and have a great time!!!
2007-03-09 13:42:50 · answer #2 · answered by jonbjammin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a hard one. It feels like you want to be a wall hugger.
The best way is to make a grand entrance. Make sure everyone sees you. Then go around introducing yourself and tell them what you do. If the conversation is flat move on. Once you find a person you can connect to, stop and keep the conversation going. Then others will see that you can hold a good conversation and then they will gravitate toward you.
It is amazing how this happens.
No one like to miss out on the news about town.
Talk about anything that is interesting. Since you are new to the town tell them what you see and what you like. Do not fall into the habit of asking them questions as you go. But pause long enough for them to talk if they wish. Someone who talks but never listens is not well liked. And when you listen be intent not distracted looking for you next mark. Once the conversation starts to fizzle out move on and see if you can keep others intested in you.
This is called "working the room". I know it sounds hard but anyone can do it. You have to break the ice and then keep the conversation flowing. Make sure you act important, someone that everyone should know. Your self confidence works to your advantage and it will bring people toward you not away.
Try this and I bet you will walk away from this party with at lease two new friends.
2007-03-09 13:21:12 · answer #3 · answered by Nevada Pokerqueen 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ask the one who hosting the party to introduce you to some of the people. That's a start. You never know what you may have in common with people.
2007-03-09 13:23:49 · answer #4 · answered by Tonya W 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask the host to introduce you to a few people. Move around and join any general conversations. Avoid anyone talking one on one, chances are they won't appreciate being barged in on. But groups of four or more are generally safe to approach. If there is dancing, go dance and make eye contact with other people. they'll feel you're outgoing and want to be around you afte the dancing ends.
2007-03-09 14:27:01 · answer #5 · answered by Malth 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can like ... hmmm .... well you can make friends by going up to people and saying hi or ask your friend to introduce you to some people
and don't be a wallfloer dance and have fun and people will catch notice of you
and when the slow music comes on if nobody asks you to dance don't be shy and go right upto them and ask!
2007-03-09 13:16:45 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Gin♥and*Jen* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Introduce yourself to people, be friendly, join into the various conversations both by sharing and listening.
2007-03-09 13:14:57 · answer #7 · answered by Pirate AM™ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just start conversating with people. Maybe have a drink to help relax you a little bit?
2007-03-09 14:39:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try not to be shy, your hostess (if she is a good one) should introduce you around to everyone at the party. Just relax, be friendly and have fun.
2007-03-09 13:15:06 · answer #9 · answered by Angela C 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Like anywhere else, introduce yourself to people you don't know and get into conversations.
2007-03-09 13:16:17 · answer #10 · answered by Fire_God_69 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋