I have been with my bf for 2 months and we have known each other for 12 years as he lives around the corner from me. Had a few dates with him when i was younger, but he always messed me about and i had no choice but to end it! For the past 2 years he has been asking me out and i thought ok i'd give it ago as he's 31 now and might know what he wants. The problem is he's always letting me down and i don't know where i stand with him. Somedays he will text 5 times and makes plans too meet up so i think we are getting on ok and then he will let me down again and i'm back to where i started. Last i heard from him was on wednesday and he said his mobile wasn't working right and that people weren't getting his messages, but he has too phones! I have text him 4 times since and emailed him but nothing. Do u think i should give up on him for good? x
2007-03-09 05:09:14 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah, unless u enjoy being abused.
2007-03-09 05:12:06 · answer #1 · answered by Pedro Sanchez 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi emailed you earlier and have just found this question without a doubt move on and wait for someone to come to you, abit of a cliche I know but honestly I spent 3 years chasing a man who said he loved me and now I realise if they do love you you don't have to chase them!I moved to France 2 months ago and 3 wks before I left had a friend tell me he loved me I said I felt the same but still had to go away as didn't want to regret not going and said time will tell. So far he rings me everyday sometimes more than once and we txt all day so think this guy is a player and keeping his options open if he was really interested he would let you know! I know it seems hard to understand especially if you have feelings for him but if he's letting you down already do you think he's likely to change. Hope it helps x
2007-03-10 07:54:23 · answer #2 · answered by phillippa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I'm going to put it like this. Take your self out of the situation and look at it from an outside point of view. Do you really want to have a boyfriend that you CONSTANTLY have to second guess and worry about. Either it's he's not coming through or he's not living up to the expectations that you know that you deserve. Or would you rather have a boyfriend that treats you like the princess that you know you deserve to be treated like. You should never settle for less sweetie, and that's what I feel like you're doing. Go out there and don't second guess yourself. There is plenty more out there that will treat you 20 times better than the douche from down the street :)
You go girl :D
2007-03-09 05:18:03 · answer #3 · answered by Clay B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are doing too mush text and email. See him the old fashion way by just popping over his house. Do you two ever see each other in person? If a guy wants to be with you he wouldn't have ANY excuses. If he's just stringing you along, then he'll tell you every excuse under the sun to stay away.
2007-03-09 05:18:22 · answer #4 · answered by GirlsDeadMonster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, pop on over since you said he lives around the corner. If you find that he's not physically disabled or struck down by lightning or doesn't have a good reason which you find believable, end it there and then.
2007-03-09 05:16:21 · answer #5 · answered by Bugsy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely get rid of him! You've given him enough chances to change his ways but he's always let you down. Give him one final ultimatum to get his act together or your off. Give him a month and if things are no better then leave him and find someone who wants to be with you.
2007-03-09 05:16:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should call him. text's and emails are good ways of getting ahold of someone but they can be so unpersonal because of a lack of true emotion in text.
Give him a call or two but if you don't reach him let him call you back. If he waits too long don't give him another shot cause he's exploring other options and using you as a safety net.
2007-03-09 05:14:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Sweetie
Yeah u should cause this older guy is treating u like crap!!! You dont deserve that ! U deserve to be treated like a Queen not like a princess like all his other whores but yeah forget about him dont waste ur time on him u can find someone better than that guy!
2007-03-09 05:16:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a confused little soul! He don't know nothing...
Sad to know that someone my age, 22, NEVER NEVER stands a woman up! He's useless, and ur relationship is going in circles, and I'm getting dizzy from you talking about it.
2007-03-09 05:13:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't sound like it's a personal thing towards u that's just the way he is, if u can't deal with it then yeah move on, but if u can understand that he is unreliable & work around it then ok, but since it boither u enough to aks then u don't have the paticence 2 deal with him----------move on-----------
2007-03-09 05:16:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him. let him know that you feel that you are being neglected and that the problems with his phone or his time seem all to "fishy". then again, you guys have only been together for 2 months. in that case, DUMP HIM!
2007-03-09 05:13:39 · answer #11 · answered by rsinfante69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋