so I get guys flirting with me at work and cracking onto me when I go out. If it were you, how would you want me to turn you down? I need a way to let people know I'm not interested without being rude, especially at work.
Also at what point would it stop being presumptuous to say I'm gay if a guy starts talking to me and I think he's chatting me up?
2007-03-09 04:49:28 · 10 answers · asked by helehelo 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Best way to handle it is to tell them that it's too bad you're not into men, as they're funny/quite a catch/etc.
That way, they'll leave you alone AND have a boosted ego.
...until they get the thought into their heads that you'd be up for a threesome with them.
2007-03-09 04:55:50 · answer #1 · answered by Slimslimmer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They shouldn't be flirting at work! I'm deathly afraid of sexual harrassment suits, where the heck do you work where this is encouraged and/or allowed?
I'd like to be turned down with a "No thanks." If I'm just flirting, quit smiling and don't return anything that may seem like an invitation to my flirting. Talk only about subjects that have nothing to do with relationships.
2007-03-09 12:54:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless light flirting disgusts you leave it alone and allow your natural disinterest to send the message
if flirting persists - "sorry not interested"
more aggressive
in the work place - "on what floor is human resources?"
at this point in a social setting you can throw presumption and tact out the window.
2007-03-09 13:18:27 · answer #3 · answered by Mark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just say that you're flattered, but you're already in a relationship (even if you're not, it's just the easiest way to let them down nicely). No further explanation should be necessary.
2007-03-09 12:58:08 · answer #4 · answered by wired35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, i know you wanted advise from a guy but i think i could help you, my friend is gay too and you couldn't even tell...what she dose is in conversations with boys who likes her, they ask her what she likes to do and she say's go out with my boy friend and go to a nice relaxing movie...she hints thats she already is taken in a sentence of a conversation and then the boys back off....simple as that...good luck..i hope you find your answer to your question!
2007-03-09 12:57:28 · answer #5 · answered by peppermint 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say that you're flattered but think of that person as a friend only. Simple.
2007-03-09 12:54:38 · answer #6 · answered by Ask Aunt Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey just enjoy it! attention is attention, who cares if you're not attracted to them. if they take it further and ask you out, just tell them you have a girl friend. make sure they know you said Girl friend.
take all the attention you can get, i mean hey, if you're out and some random guy wants to buy you drinks, take them! lol!
2007-03-09 12:54:39 · answer #7 · answered by mickey g 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you're in a committed relationship.
2007-03-09 13:10:36 · answer #8 · answered by AlphaMale 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all don't tell them you're gay, then they'll never leave you alone, guys love hot lesbians, just let it be known that "you're taken"
2007-03-09 12:53:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry you are not my type
2007-03-09 12:53:51 · answer #10 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋