Depression and anxiety??????????

Question

I have depression and anxiety which I am on meds for. It hinders me from having a normal life. I am always nervous. Can't get my words out I am so nervous. I feel like I am no good. I think people think I am ugly and fat. I think people talk about me. So I never hang out with anybody. I really need help. I want to be a normal person and enjoy life. Any tips??!!!???

I am 21 yrs old.

Answer 1

I know how you feel if you get any answers let me know . when i read your topic i thought i wrote that it sounds exactally like me . see your not the only one out there living with this . and ya its a ***** to live with. just keep doing what your doing ok.

Answer 2

Yeah...It would help If you said how old you were, because if you're in your teenagish years, some of this is just normal stuff everyone deals with growing up at some point or another...I have anxiety and bipolar disorder and I'm in my early 20's. I've been on and off a series of medications for several years, dating way back to when I was about 12, so I think I can give a small amount of possible helpful insight. If youre not already in or have never been to therapy you should try it out. Someone neutral who you dont have to worry about judging you that has all the right tools to help you come up with some strategies to help you deal with your social anxiety and self esteem issues. and As the last answeree stated, It is apparent either the med or the dose of the med you are taking is not exactly helping you at the moment, so you probably want to contact who ever prescribes them to you and talk about what is the best option. Being "normal" what ever that even means....is possible. I totally relate to you about not getting words out...because of my mania sometimes, my mind races so fast, it wants me to spit my words out faster than my mouth knows how to, and there i am at a work meeting stuttering. I take serequel for that now which has made a big difference. Good luck!!!

Answer 3

Um yeah... I have the same thing, I know how you feel.

You didn't say how old you are. You need to be on combination meds for depression and social anxiety. Xanax and Wellbutrin work for me, but each person reacts differently. Work with your doctor to figure out the right combination for you.

Along with meds, counseling is extremely helpful. They will help you step by step improve your ability to manage stress and present yourself confidently.

It's a lot of hard work and you should be ready to really put your effort into it. You can get relief from almost all the symptoms eventually and have a normal life.

Answer 4

You should take some time to analyze yourself. In reality, people are not talking about you and they don't think bad about you. It is only in your head. Determine what makes you happy and what makes you smile. Talk to a family member or a real close friend that you know will never talk about you and just be yourself. Don't try to please them and don't try to say what they want to hear. Just be yourself. Depression and anxiety is self-inflicted sometimes because of fear. Fear of rejection, fear of getting hurt, fear of messing up, fear of being alone, fear of anything. Once you pin-point what you are afraid of and talk to someone specifically about your fear, you will get past your depression. It will not happen overnight, but after a month or two you will start breaking out of your shell.

Answer 5

redefine normal.....because there is no normal. People do not talk about you, they are too busy with their own problems. Keep up with therapy and your meds and understand this, 98% of all people feel the same way you do. Look to yourself to validate your life. Get out more, even for short periods of time. Work at it. You are worthy and you deserve a good life. you are more normal than you know.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

i dont think you are on the right meds, personally. i would talk to your doctor/psychiatrist and see what they think. they might switch you to something else or up the dosage of the meds you are on. i was having the same problems and it took me a while to find the right med/dosage that worked right for me.

possibly you could find some people in your area with the same concerns and talk with them. you could make some new friends and possibly get over the things that are holding you back.

besides the medication, i always found that exercise always helped me a bit to feel better all around. try it, it might work for you.

good luck :) keep your head up!

Answer 8

If you have been on your meds for more than 2 months and see no improvement, then it is time to go back to the doctor. Ask for a re-evaluation of your condition. There may be a slightly different chemical configuration in another med. that will be more beneficial. Try behavior therapy. Behavioral therapy focuses on one area that you need specific help in. (For example, people who are clausterphobic may need specific help in conqureing fears of smaller spaces like elevators. So BTs will work with the person and elevators. Don't get caught up in the traditional form of therapy, it isn't useful to whine to someone for 20 years.)
As for nervousness try this game - "Worst Thing Ever"
When a situation makes you nervous, decide what the worst possible thing is that can happen. ( Pretend you are nervous in an elevator - What is the worse thing that can happen? Let us say that you fear it will plummet and you will all die. Now assign that fear a number on a scale from one to ten. Ten is scariest thing ever one is not scary. Let's say you gave the elevator a 10 on the scary scale. Then assign it a number from one to ten with how likely you think this will be. Now, watch and learn - What if that wasn't the worst possible thing? What if you were trapped in an elevator with another person that was a rapist? Before the elevator plunged, you were brutally raped and maimed. You both survived the plunge, but the rapist got away and you were paralized from the accident. NOW that is a 10 on the scary scale!!! How does this compare to your first 'worst possible thing'? Not so bad eh? Yet, it isn't very likely that the elevator would fall in the first place. So now you have given your brain an almost laughable ammount of "scarry". Go back and decide if the elevator just falling is really a ten. Decide if the likely-hood of this happening is as high as you think. You'll be surprised at how your brain changes! Then do the exact opposite - decide the best possible outcome on the elevator - say you arrive safely at your destination and all goes smoothly. How about a better outcome? You and two other people get on the elevator, and you talk and it turns out that one is your soul-mate and the other was looking for you because he is with publisher's clearing house and you won the grand prize on Thanksgiving weekend! You are rich and in love!!! Now how does your brain feel? Assign this a number on both the scary scale and the likely scale. To end the game, decide which scenario is most likely to occur. You will be surprised at how much stress melts away! I hope I explained the game okay. It is useful for any situation that stresses you out.)
2. Can't get words out - it is okay, most of us, depressed anxious or otherwise get this way occasionally. Try this - talk to yourself in the mirror. Pretend you are at a party, or a movie, or a social event or talking on the phone. Get used to talking. If you use the phone with difficulty - write down responses and then read them. Use humor - if the cat's got your tongue, make a joke about it! ("Ha! I guess I left my tongue that works at home" or "You all will be so impressed once I learn to speak!". Everyone will laugh including you. Laughing will help you to relax and then you can shift the conversation to someone else - "so, since my tongue isn't working, how about you?")
3. Inadequte feelings come from depression. They are part of a disease that you can help to make better by sitting down for 5 minutes and saying "I am a good person". repeat this and bring to mind small things that you have done to prove it. Don't let your mind say, "but that was no big deal". Remember this "No kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted" ~ Aseop.
4. Thinking that others think poor things about you gives them no credit as decent human beings. What do you think about others? Do you constantly put them down in your own head? If so - change!!! Remember that this is also part of your illness, but give others the same courtesy that they are giving you. I for example do not think you are a creep. If I did, would I write this really long answer? Give me the benefit of the doubt.
5. Hang out with people. Is there something you have always wanted to do, but use some excuse not to do it? (Not enough time, not enough $, not capable, too hard right now etc?) GO out and do it. You have always wanted to learn to rock climb? Join a club of climbers, and get some lessons. You will feel amazing. It is so empowering to not only have a dream, but to live it. You know what I am doing? I have always wanted to live in southern Ca. I have no friends, no relations there, but I am moving! I am living a dream! I have had to give up some things, but it is worth it! I love it!
6. Need help? Talk with a friend or talk to yourself. You will be okay. You can make it.
7. No one is normal. Everyone has something they wish they could change. It may be a stupid thing to you, but it isn't to them. Just do the best you can with whay you have got and make the best of a situation that you didn't want. Watch yourself mature in a unique way from your experiences. This trial can make you grow into a better person or it can cripple you and halt your progression as a person. We are here on earth to learn, so get learning!
8. Have a great day and you can do this. As for being fat, either change (being on medications make you gain weight) by exercising and cutting out the sugars, or quit bugging yourself. Exercise will help your mood though!

Answer 9

I know what your going through. Im also going through a depressing to and on meds to. You need to take it one day at a time and try to be positive. Try to talk to someone you really trust and talk. Keep smiling and try to be happy.

Answer 10

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