I wanted to be with a girl that had a boyfriend while in college. That made me very depressed that I wanted to hurt myself or someone. I left college without a degree. Anyway, that girl still had a boyfriend and loves him so dearly that someday, they may get married and the girl and her boyfriend (They were Greeks; fraternities and sororities) do not like me (They probably hate me.). I had thoughts on revenge as well as the hurting of myself. I never went to my prom and never been on a date. I am overweight and confined to my parent's home although I am 23 and wanting to go into the Job Corps Program in order to get my life back together but my mom said that she wants to take care of the SSI first. She wants me to be on it. I have no job (never had a job before) and want to work beyond mininum wage. I am going to be living alone someday and there may be a possibility I may develop a mental illness. What should I do? Should revenge be a great idea? Is there anyone that cares about that?
2007-03-09 04:41:49 · 10 answers · asked by aaron_esq 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That was very devastating to my life! Why does that relationship between that girl and that guy happen even though I tried to prove to her I am a more better person than that guy is? Why does she like him over me? Why is my life not so great? I have no car and I live in a rural area which is in the middle of nowhere.
2007-03-09 04:43:07 · update #1
http://www.calculator.com which I go to and click on "Love Calculator." I entered my name as well as the girl whom I was interested in dating/relationship and it calculated that a 94% would be successful in a relationship. Should that really matter?
2007-03-10 12:36:16 · update #2
look man you just have to accept that what you want is not priority for anyone but you. You are in the place in your life where you need to make a decision that if you want to succumb to the depression of what you are or if you want to work towards what you can be. Don't give up just because one girl is happy with her guy instead of you. That's what happens you will meet great people and they will interact with you and you will get attached to their awesome personalities but you have to accept that all you get is their respect. There is no reason for revenge they did nothing to wrong you. They simply chose to be happy with each other and you feel bitter because of the loneliness you are embracing hoping that someone will feel sorry for you and show you some compassion. I feel sorry for you but I have no compassion for the weakness you are displaying. Get a goal and get driven to pursue it. Start with your self image do a little research and start a diet and excercise program. Then get focused on a career, do some research in that area and find something that interests you that is within your capabilities and resources.
Sounds like your mother has been doing you a terrible dis-service by catering to your every need and showering you with affection when you let her know you are a sad little ninja... But thats just be speculation on my part.
Get motivated, get off drugs if you are on any, make some friends, live your life man.
2007-03-09 04:53:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First thing..get your life in order. Go back to college. Then you won't have to take a minimum wage job. You could also work in college through the work program. While working, you would meet more people. Stop listening to Mom about SSI. If you get your life straightened out, you would be more appealing to the opposite sex. Quit feeling sorry for yourself and do something about it. Never take revenge on yourself or others. This will only cause you more trouble.
2007-03-17 03:19:33 · answer #2 · answered by teacher sub 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to get out of this negative mind set..... it is only holding you back. Think about the positive, and just start! take baby steps, and start with a part time job until you can work you way up to a full time job, that will lead to a better full time job.
Stop obsessing about that girl from college (i know, easier said then done!).... but you will be better for it! Then after you take the steps to get your life together, a girl, worthy of your love/care will become part of your life. But it's not going to happen unless you start! Everyone's gotta start somewhere!!!
2007-03-09 04:48:59 · answer #3 · answered by jaye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude forget the girl, there are so many out there, it wasnt meant to be. do everything you can to better yourself intellectually so you can have that dream job, just because you live in the middle of nowhere doesnt mean with the right education you cant except a good job in another city or state. does your mom want the money? thats greedy, if you can walk and talk you dont need ssi.
2007-03-09 04:47:16 · answer #4 · answered by CATWOMAN 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop obsessing about things that are beyond your control and stop making excuses for your own plight.
If you are 23, you are not "confined" to your parents' home, you choose to live there.
The Job Corps sounds like a great idea, but I suspect that in addition to being overweight, that you might be out of shape. The Job Corps can often be very demanding. You need to be prepared for that.
Once you begin to take charge of your own life, there will be girls lining up to date you. Women don't like men who find excuses for their failures. Women prefer men who find ways to succeed.
2007-03-09 04:49:01 · answer #5 · answered by Joe Bostonian 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first off stop whining. harsh but damn you need a reality check boy! dont complain about stuff you can do something about! get your *** in gear. register for some dating sites. make some friends online if you cant go out. If the girl doesnt like you so what? shes not the only girl in the world. she doesnt sound that great anyways. get over it move on and live your life like the rest of us have to.
2007-03-09 04:48:02 · answer #6 · answered by The Vet Tech 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK
If reading over what you have written does nor give you a clue, hang it up and look for a stump-broke ewe.
2007-03-09 04:46:55 · answer #7 · answered by Gaspode 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
get a job then a life
2007-03-09 04:47:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
MOVE ON TO SOMEONE WHO IS AVAILABLE. DONT RUIN YOUR LIFE JUST BECAUSE THIS GIRL ISNT AVAILABLE,
IT'S NOT THAT SERIOUS. MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE AND GET SOME COUSELING, YOU NEED IT
2007-03-09 04:47:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
awwww...poor baby.
2007-03-09 04:44:35 · answer #10 · answered by precious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋