Ive been with my bofriend for 4 years?

Question

And we have talked about getting married how do i get him to propose

Answer 1

have you thought maybe he doesnt want to marry you?some men just want sex and no comitment.

Answer 2

You can't. Think about it. If he DID do it because he was pressured, you can't expect the relationship to last or for both of you to be happy.

If you are both young and/or not making a lot of money yet (i.e. new jobs, still in school, etc.), then it's not really practical to expect him to be thinking about your wedding yet.

Some couples do get married young and/or simply, but most do not.

Also, how long you have been together does not always matter. There is a big difference from dating from age 16-20 and expecting a ring, compared to ages 26-30. I personally think you should wait until you are financially stable, but that's only my opinion. Perhaps this is what he's waiting for.

If you are at least 24, and you both have good jobs (or your families would be willing to pay for your wedding and help you buy a house, financially help you, etc.), then you really have little room here. You have already expressed your concerns. Trying to force him may cause him to think twice.

Perhaps he IS planning to surprise you with a proposal this year. You wouldn't want to steal his thunder, would you? Maybe he is saving for that perfect ring. Wait for a bit longer. If you are younger than 25, and/or both of you are not making good money, expect to wait for awhile.

If you are both older/have a good income, then bring it up again after 1 more year. If nothing has changed, and he says that he has no real plans for the future, I'm sorry to tell you, but most likely you are not the girl he plans to marry. Or he is not the "marrying kind".

P.S. My personal story: My fiance and I got engaged after 13 months. I was 24, he was 27. He says he had the ring made 6 months after we had been dating. He is financially stable (I am still in university). We have not had sex. Everyone is different, but this seemed to work for me. The bottom line is, we were also both READY to get married at the SAME time. I told him I was finally old enough to look at marriage seriously. Timing is key.

Answer 3

I had the same problem. After 6 years of being together and no commitement, I moved out. A month later he was begging me to come back and he proposed witht he biggest ring I ever saw in my life.

They don't know what they got until they lose it, but you will never be able to force him into doing it or he wont be happy. I just don't get why some guys think the girl is good enough to share a bed with, but yet will not marry her. He is in need of a wake up call.

Answer 4

General rule of thumb is a guy will not propse if he doesn't want marriage or is getting something already without the
commitment. One thing that you could say that you don't feel comfortable having sex anymore until you are married if he loves you and what you have to offer this may persuade him to get married but really if a guy wants to get married they would have asked a long time ago 4yrs wow. It was 6 months for me and my wife when I proposed then we got married 9 months later and no pregnancy involved just love her alot. Why is he procrastinating on marriage ask him yourself just to see his reaction if he is in love and want's you for life then he will say yes if the other happens atleast you can stop spending anymore time on this deadbeat. Good Luck and God Bless.

Answer 5

Is the timing right, do both of yous have good jobs and perhaps a house to move to. If things are on track than I am sure that hes just waiting now for the right time and he will ask you soon. I'm in the same boat as you, I have been dating for four years and we have talked about marriage, its just the matter of time, and money. And the right time will come. Try not asking him about it and bringing it up, he might be waiting till he thinks you dont have it on your mind so that it will be more of a surprise.

Answer 6

Believe me, there's no way to "get him" to propose. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 4 years, and he's made it very clear that he's doing it on his own time. We've discussed it and knew we wanted to get married, but I know if it were up to me we would have been engaged a year ago after graduating from college! But he is hinting that he's planning it now, and I'm glad that he's doing it when he wants to -- it reassures me that he's asking because he wants to and not because I'm getting crazy about it! I won't spend any time wondering about if he did it because he really wanted to, and I'll be lucky enough to be surprised. Good luck! :-)

Answer 7

Don't force him or con him into that. Do you really want someone who isn't ready to propose to you? You want it to be genuine.

Dropping hints or pressuring will only push him away. He'll be there regardless to whether you're engaged or not. So just be patient and allow things to happen as they do.


If you truly love him you won't pressure him. It took 5 years for my man to finally propose.

Answer 8

Thats kinda hard to do. Maybe talk about how he'd propose. When, Where (time of year) Maybe its closer than ya think or show him pictures of rings you like

Answer 9

Give him time, don't push. It took my husband 7 years of us dating before he proposed!

Answer 10

you can't "get him to propose," if you have talked about marriage seriously then he is already thinking about it. rings are expensive, maybe he is saving up. if you're really in a rush, pop the question yoruself.

Answer 11

Tell him how you're feeling. That's what i did with my fiancee. I told him that I thought we should get engaged and I gave him my reasons why. A few months later, I had my ring.