2007-03-09 04:23:36 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Dont talk him into something that might push him away. If your wondering if he's ever going to pop the question than ask him if he see's him and you ever getting married and what he wants in the future. Dont pressure him and try to get him to ask you. If he says he wants to marry you someday than its best to wait. Now its probably because hes waiting for a good time like having the bills in order, having a house ready to move into and both having income coming in. As well as how long have you's been dating and how old are yous. If your in your late 20's and been dating for over three years, than talk to him about what's the next step with yous and go from there.
2007-03-09 04:28:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I just want to say that it's wonderful you're so excited to begin a life with someone that you're waiting in anticipation for a proposal.
Having said that, there is obviously no specific way to 'get' a boyfriend to propose. I think the most you can do is make it very clear that your love for him is a life-time commitment. Show him that you are serious about the relationship and are in it for the long-haul. Discuss the important issues like your beliefs (spiritual, parenting, etc), expectations (lifestyle, career, etc), money (spending habits, debts, etc) to get both of you thinking seriously about spending your life together.
If it has been several years and there is still no proposal in sight, you have 3 options. 1) Bring it up yourself. It may not be the ideal way you hoped for, but it may save you years down the road if it turns out he doesn't believe in marriage or does not want to marry you (which may come in the form of "I'm not ready"). 2) End the relationship. If marriage is something crucial for you to stay in a relationship, and if it is very important to you that the man brings it up, I'm afraid each year that passes is a sign that it's more and more unlikely this relationship will move in that direction. Time to move on. 3) Stay in the relationship, either continuing to hope for a proposal (perhaps to no avail) or, more realistically, accepting the relationship as is.
Good luck!
2007-03-09 14:28:46 · answer #2 · answered by AlyJoy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is not asking ,yet then you will not be able to get him to propose to you. You might want to bring up the subject about marriage and see how he reacts to it. If he is not much into the idea then either you can except the fact that he is not going to propose to you or move on. If you give him an ultimatum that just makes matters worse because he will feel like he is being pressured and might resent the fact if you two were to get married.
2007-03-09 12:28:53 · answer #3 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be 2007, but it's still the man's job to propose. I would be extremely uncomfortable if a woman proposed to me (not just because I'm married now, lol). Have you even talked in depth about furture plans and desires to get married? That comes first.
2007-03-09 12:29:23 · answer #4 · answered by chocobocharmer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a truly evolved relationship, both partners discuss their future together, deciding whether marriage and children are what they both want.
It's very old-fashioned to pine away for a romantic proposal or to scheme ways to "get" him to propose. Discuss your future with your boyfriend in an open, honest, calm and rational way. Good Luck.
2007-03-09 12:27:34 · answer #5 · answered by §Sally§ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really can't 'get' your boyfriend to do anything. If you really want to get married, why not propose to him? But I am willing to bet if he has not proposed yet, he is not ready to get married and he may tell you so when you ask.
2007-03-09 12:28:48 · answer #6 · answered by Katykins 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is 2007 Casey. Propose to him.
2007-03-09 12:25:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When he feels that he is truly ready he will. Dont rush it. IT will happen specailly if he truly loves you. If in time he doesnt then you ask him, the worse that can happen is he says no. But if you really want him to just wait, be patient, and enjoy each other while you have each other. the marriage thing, will come when he feels that it is right for the both of you
2007-03-09 12:31:59 · answer #8 · answered by chasier1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't pressure him, be patient. Have a talk with him to see where and what he wants in the future. To see if you both are on the same page, that should help you out to know if he is the right one for you.
2007-03-09 12:26:26 · answer #9 · answered by qbibbs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait...if you try and force him, he'll feel like he is getting cornered and won't want to do it. Just keep hinting about how happy you are and make sure that you guys have fun. Maybe start talking about a few future plans, but don't go too fast
oh and don't propose to him...that's just weird, it'll make the guy feel like you're trying to take over his manly duties
2007-03-09 12:26:26 · answer #10 · answered by Jared P 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋