How can it affect a person if they were molested as a child by thier uncle and her family didn't protect her even though her aunt knew about it. If you can't trust your family how would that make a person feel?
2007-03-09 04:07:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Wow.That is sick.Why would an uncle do that???It would make them feel horrible.It would be hard for them to open up to other people.I hope this didn't happen to you or any of your relatives.
2007-03-09 04:12:38 · answer #1 · answered by eVeRyBoDy SiNg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Becca, I don't know the complete story of your friend and what all happened to her, but being molested and knowing that your family knows yet they will not do anything makes a girl feel lost. Did her family call her a lier? I can understand where you both are coming from because I was molested for 8 years by my step grandfather and so was my older sister, neither of us ever said anything to each other about it until our younger sister asked us if what he was doing to her was okay, she was 6 at the time and us being her older sisters neither of us could keep our mouths shut so we told our parents who said that we was making the story up for attention. I am going to tell you what me and my sisters done we supported each other and listened to each other when we was ready to talk, we never told anybody about this and that made us feel better knowing that nobody else would ever know our secret because we did not want everybody looking at us funny. If you think it would help her talk to your school counsler or have her talk to him. But as far as what you can do for her is just support her, and help her go out and have some good clean fun away from the things that would make her think of what has happened to her.
2007-03-09 12:51:09 · answer #2 · answered by Genie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to seek counsel ling to help you deal with this.
If your parent or relative did not protect you, there is something going on with them/Perhaps they lived through the same ordeal.
there could be psychological problems that they weren't facing at the time and also if they are around an abusive partner, drinker, physical beating, etc, they would fear for their own lives over yours.
They are not mentally stable and in no position to protect a child.
She did not have the tools to deal with her own safety let alone yours.
You can forgive her so you can let go of the anger and pain but don't forget. I would not personally want her in my life or any part of that family.
I, being an adult would be filing charges against him, just as so may other people have against fathers, step-fathers and priests after decades..
You want someone to help you through this transition.
It will always dictate your life if you do not get some professional help .
You need to let go of the fear and anger, it is preventing you from getting on with life.
Call someone.
2007-03-09 12:17:58 · answer #3 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you how it feels because it has happened to me. I am 36 now but I have low self-esteem, depression, abandonment issues and a lot of anger toward my family. I am in counseling which helps some but life can be difficult at times. It's pretty hard when the very people that you should be able to trust your whole life and who are supposed to love and protect you do this to you. I am sooooo sorry for you and wish I could help you. Good luck sweety!
2007-03-09 12:15:44 · answer #4 · answered by Olivia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That could have profound effects.
If that happened to me, I would warn everybody in the family that my uncle was a child molester.
If anybody took the side of the uncle, I would not be in contact with them anymore; or if I had to be, the contact would be very minimal.
For the people who took my side, I would stay friendly with them and build warm relationships.
This is often really painful, because sometimes your own parents would prefer your molester to you.
2007-03-09 12:32:35 · answer #5 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it affects their whole life..be live me they have trust issues the rest of their life...they say time heals well that's a lie ..sometimes your even left with this thing called Post Traumatic Syndrome and have flash backs...it is horrible and can't understand why the aunt would allow it to happen...she was as sick as him...this has happened to me also..and I have been through counceling and some times it hurt like it was happening over and over but confronting your fears will help...I hope you find peace within your self forget about the past and be glad that your alive..I do this every day but sometimes it's hard but I do have a man who loves me and understands what I feel like...
2007-03-09 12:25:58 · answer #6 · answered by Danielle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's really messed up. that can really mess up a person's life. i personally think that the uncle and the aunt should have went to jail (if they didnt). i would say they should distance them self's from the family and find friends and maybe be close with their families. i would say that that person may have some serious relationship issues in the future.
2007-03-09 12:13:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are lots of ways that it can affect a person. Low self-esteem is a big one that abused people deal with. The main thing is that they seek out someone to talk to whether it be a counselor or friend to help them deal with this horrid ordeal and that support encourages the statment... it's not your fault !
2007-03-09 12:31:33 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can make you feel pretty awful. If you're the person whose family did this to you, it's time to stop attending functions where he is there and seek counseling help. Good luck.
2007-03-09 12:10:39 · answer #9 · answered by Ask Aunt Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THOSE PEOPLE ARE SICK IN THE HEAD. YOU DON'T WANT TO BE LIKE THEM. YOU WANT TO BE BETTER THAN THEM. DON'T LET THEIR NEGATIVITY GET YOU DOWN. I KNOW ITS HARD BUT MOVE ON AND LOOK TO THE FUTURE.
2007-03-09 12:11:33 · answer #10 · answered by goddess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋