I want my boyfriend & I to sit down with my mom and dad (separately b/c they're divorced) at dinner and tell them of our plans for engagement and upcoming wedding. We've been living together for 3 years now and have been planning this wedding for the past year or so. He thinks its a good idea rather then him asking them (since he doesn't know my dad very well anyway) alone.
So why no ring? I don't like long engagements. I don't like all the hype that goes into weddings. I love planning it, but without ALL the family obligations and input. So the later I hold off on a ring, the later I have to deal with that stuff.
But is it okay to tell and discuss with parents the situation or should I wait until there is a ring (which won't be for a few more months). I figure they play a too important role in this that they should know sooner....with ring or not.
What do you think?
Thanks for your answers.
2007-03-09 04:03:02 · 8 answers · asked by bubbadoy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Tell them now. If you don't want everyone else to know yet, have your parents keep it quiet. It doesn't matter if you have the ring yet or not, the important part is including your parents in your life and letting them know what you are planning. I think it's a great plan, and I'm glad to see you two are being thoughtful enough to include your parents. Are you planning on telling his, too? I think it would be best do tell both sets of parents. Congrats!
2007-03-09 04:13:33 · answer #1 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell them ASAP. Actually, I think the two of you together should tell your plans to the family and tell them that it is very important to you to have their blessings. Obviously since you have been living together for 3 years, this may not be a shock, but I believe you should let your family in on the big secret and include them in this exciting time in your life, even if you don't have a ring! Who cares about the ring, anyway? You can be married with or without a ring! Best of luck!
2007-03-09 12:12:06 · answer #2 · answered by ncmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with each parent separately and let them know that you are planning to get engaged in three or four months and you want their blessing. When you and your B/F get the ring, then you should have some kind of dinner out with each set of parents or a small engagement party with immediate family. It is up to you.
2007-03-09 14:47:23 · answer #3 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and tell them now. The ring will come later. Your not going to be discussing the ring on your finger your going to be talking about the wedding. So the ring is just the icing on the cake that can wait. Have a nice dinner with each of your parents and tell them your news. I am sure that they will be pleased and happy for you both.
Congrats!!
2007-03-09 12:08:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's always good to get a head start on the wedding plans. Just because you don't have a ring doesn't mean you can't start. Talking to both your parents is an excellent idea and will only benefit you both in the end. Good luck and have fun planning.
2007-03-09 12:12:32 · answer #5 · answered by Riss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the ring is the least important part to the engagement. its just a bonus!
talk to your parents...
take your time planning the wedding so it is a relaxed process. have fun with it.
the shorter the engagement, the more panicked you are going to be trying to get the wedding put together.
2007-03-09 12:12:41 · answer #6 · answered by <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do it before the ring. the ring is just a symbol of your commitment to each other. also it's better to just get these things over with sooner rather than later. I wouldn't put it off.
2007-03-09 12:12:51 · answer #7 · answered by sangreal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are suggesting is quite odd, but whatever floats your boat.
2007-03-09 14:12:05 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋