who I think is a great guy. But I recently got out of this horrible relationship (a little over a month ago) and want to be alone to figure out my life but you know how people talk and everyone knows about your life before you even do. Well, He came up to me and asked how I was doing and heard that things with my other guy broke off. He is being a great guy, listening and offering his advice (as he was in the same situation about 2 years ago with his ex). He has 2 kids and so do I so he is telling me how things were when he first started off on his own.
I spoke with one of my girl friends and she said that he must be interested in me if he is asking questions and trying to become "good" friends. Could that be true? Could this guy be interested in becoming friends and then maybe down the way becoming a - well I don't know - boyfriend? He is really sweet and works hard everyday, but to take some time to see how I am doing? Shoud I Become friends and see where things go later?
2007-03-09 04:01:25 · 5 answers · asked by dazed&confused81 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well now, good for you first off for getting out of a horrible relationship. (soft hug). Second off, you state you "want to be alone to figure out my life"......fair enough, then do so. But in the meantime you are already stressing about the "what if" factor of this new guy showing interest. That is unhealthy. We all need to learn to just breathe............really really slow. To listen to our own hearts. I think that trying to always find answers is pushing things beyond what it is and should be at this point. Friendship is a valuable thing. He obviously is wanting to be in that category. So enjoy just that. Keep your focus however on YOU right now. Starting over, doesn't mean including another man or woman right away. That's some serious unhealthy thinking. You need recovery time. Endings no matter what or why, hurt. You have to heal. To find "you" again. In the meantime if you focus on him being a friend and not trying to foresee the future with him in it so fast...you'd realize you let him in now, in the present, and best to keep him under "friends" until you are ready and able to move forward. Then if you have feelings for this "friend" I guess you'll know it and how to proceed further.
2007-03-09 04:12:45 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 17:23:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with being friends as long as you don't rush back into a relationship before you get over the previous one. Take some time to assess what went wrong in the previous relationship, make sure you learned something from it.
2007-03-09 04:09:04 · answer #3 · answered by bombastic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might just be trying to be friendly or helping a fellow sufferer out.
Becoming friends is a good idea. By friend I mean just friendship first. Before you assume going out etc, it is too early for you & you do need to figure your life out like you said. So friendship is a good idea.
Also if you want to consider asking him out in the future, remember to ask if he is seeing anyone.
You sound like a gal with a good head on her shoulders. Good luck to you.
2007-03-09 04:08:06 · answer #4 · answered by Bugsy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is definetly interested. Go for it if you're interested also.
2007-03-09 04:05:25 · answer #5 · answered by Stitch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋