i knew i was gay since i was 8 i keep trying to not have have these sinend feeling's but they wont go away i tried dating a girl but that dint work for me im soo hurt i cut myself now im worried i tryed soooo hard to be normal i went to physatrict 4 diffrent ones all they told me was i have to accept who i am and nothing wrong with me i get soo pisssed i pray all night cut in the shape of cross on my arm maybe he would cure me someday but he has no mercy for me i feel soo hated i dont want to live no more im trying so hard to change
2007-03-09 03:57:14 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Please don't kill yourself!
There is nothing wrong with being gay, though many religions will say it is as a way of controlling people through condemnation and guilt (which is a form of psychological torture).
The psychiatrists were correct though. There is nothing wrong with you and you have to learn to accept yourself for who you are, regardless of what other people say/think.
Sexual orientation is something you are born with. Religion is a choice. Maybe it's time to choose a new religon.
2007-03-09 04:08:21 · answer #1 · answered by Jett Girl 3 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Please call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255). They are open 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. You've been to 4 different psychiatrists and it didn't help. How about talking to a counselor on a suicide hotline? They specialize in talking to people who feel exactly as you do. Please give them a try before you do anything else.
Above all, please know that whether you are gay or straight is not what is important here. What is important is that God gave you life and made you for a purpose. We all have a purpose. God did not intend for you to be torturing yourself this way. He wants you to experience joy in this life. If you aren't experiencing joy, it isn't because you are gay and this is God's punishment. It's because you have not seen yourself as someone worthy of joy and happiness. God loves you. I repeat - GOD LOVES YOU. You mustn't try to kill someone whom God made and whom He loves.
Please just know that if others can't accept you for who you are, then that is not a reason to die. That's a reason to LIVE and to SHOW THEM that you are a wonderful and valuable human being. We all have something to contribute in this world. You can't define yourself by your homosexuality, any more than I can define myself by my heterosexuality. We are SO much more than that. I'd bet you have already touched so many lives in positive ways and don't even know it. Just by being kind to someone could have had a profound impact on them if they were having a rotten day. Being an example of kindness, patience or tolerance and acceptance are all good attributes that I would venture to guess that you possess. These are things that you can give to others as a positive contribution. Please know that you are not defined by your sexual orientation, but rather by the person you are on the inside. I don't even know you and I care about you. Many others do too, I'm sure. Ignore the hateful answers above mine. Listen to those whose answers are caring and sincere. If total strangers are writing to you and showing they care, just believe that others care too, even if you might not think so. Call the hotline number before you do anything else. These people can help you to feel better - really. I will be praying for you. Remember that God DOES love you and He doesn't want you to kill yourself, but rather to live. Hang in there, okay?
2007-03-09 04:22:27 · answer #2 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First: SUICIDE IS NOT THE ANSWER!
Second: Sometimes you have to go to a hormonal type of doctor because it may be that you might need more testosterone in your system = hormonal imbalance. Also keep going to counseling.
Third: You are not able to love or like anyone if you don't love/ like yourself first. So stop trying to get into a relationship to feel better.
Fourth: Go to a local church and seek help. I believe that there is a God, and that he doesn't give you something you can't handle. These feelings may happen so that you can become a better person and allow you to help others in the same position. Keep praying and asking for guidance; leave it in HIS hands. God gives you free will, so that you may do as you please, but life without Him is pure emptiness.
PLEASE do not commit suicide!! The Lord has a purpose for you!
I'll keep you in my prayers..
God Bless
2007-03-09 04:08:05 · answer #3 · answered by YayaMami87 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I suggest that you look for a professional therapist, a psychologist or psychiatrist to help you. If you are feeling particularly desparate, call a suicide hotline, and do it now.
The problem you are experiencing is not unusual and can be addressed. It may be that addressing it through the notion of "sin" and religion is not the most effective means at this moment.
Get the help you need to get past this crisis, and worry about the other stuff once you've got a better understanding of your feelings.
2007-03-09 04:02:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No child of God is a mistake or hated by Him. You need to know this. I'm sorry you are going through a difficult time, but that is when you should turn to God and others even more. Never give up. You have a purpose in this life. Search for it.
May God Bless you.
2007-03-09 04:05:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
You can't change; you are what you are.
In biblical times, increasing the tribe size was the most important thing in the world; so of course the people who wrote the bible made it an offense punishable by death (just like working on saturday). You are what you are. Accept yourself and reject the religion that's making you miserable.
May I ask, out of the many hundreds of religions in the world, why choose this one? Is it because it happens to be the same one your parents belong to? Does that seem like a good enough reason?
I wish I could talk to you about this in greater detail.. but you don't allow emails.
2007-03-09 04:01:31 · answer #6 · answered by eldad9 6 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Why are you so sure that the feelings are wrong? You can't help what you feel. Whether to act on your feelings or not is something we all need to consider rationally - sex can be dangerous - but being attracted to certain people and not others is not a choice, and anyone who tells you your feelings or thoughts are evil doesn't know what he is talking about.
You don't deserve blame (or credit) for what you aren't in control of. The people who made you feel guilty are the ones who should be ashamed.
2007-03-09 04:06:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
The psychiatrists are telling you the truth. You will never be happy if you can't accept who you are.
God made you just the way you are. He made you gay not to tempt you to evil but to see if you have the strengh to be who you truly are [who god wants you to be].
Please get some help, suicide is not the answer. If you think that you are sinful for having homosexual thoughts killing yourself is an even worse sin because it is one you can not rectify. If you feel that having homosexual interaction is a sin you have the option to be celibate all your life. But once you kill yourself you given up all chance at redemption.
Sending healing and loving thoughts your way.
2007-03-09 04:34:03 · answer #8 · answered by ajtheactress 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that being gay is a sin, but even if you believe it is, it is not BEING gay that is considered a sin, but the sexual act. If you believe that, and cannot ever accept that homosexual relations are ok, then perhaps it is your duty in life to remain chaste. There is no shame in that, and St. Paul even indicates that it is the ideal for a holy life. You do not have to feel ashamed of who you are. You can be quite proud that even though you have homosexual feelings, you have chosen to follow your religion and remain chaste - if that is what you think you should do.
If it is society's reaction to you, or your family's reaction to you, that you are afraid of, then I feel for you. Our society has not totally come to embrace homosexuality, and this is hurtful to people like yourself. You did not choose to be the way you are. No one has a right to condemn you for it. You should not have to pretend to be someone you are not.
I respect your religion, and I do not wish to advise you to ever go against your religion. But consider this: even if you do not have the strength to remain chaste, remember that God is forgiving. No one is perfect, even after becoming saved. This is the purpose of Jesus' death. You are not expected to be perfect. You can try your best, but if you fail, forgiveness is always extended to you, as a beloved child of God. Please do not torture yourself over this.
Try to find other Christians who are gay and struggle with the issue - and talk to them and form friendships of support. See how they handle the struggles. And you can become a support for others as well. You can really be a good influence for others. Please don't give up on life. God made you this way for a reason. He has a good plan which He has in mind for you.
God bless you.
2007-03-09 04:13:08 · answer #9 · answered by Heron By The Sea 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Awww sweetie don't hurt yourself! Whats wrong with being gay? It's mostly a very excepted thing now-a-days. I'm in high school, and it's actually considered uncool not to except gay people. I have lots of gay friends that are perfectly happy and have boyfriends and lots of friends. You have a lot to live for!! The world is changing, and you're a part of the rebellion and the change. Stand up for yourself, do something really cool with your life...make lots of money...live in a mansion...move somewhere cool. There's lots of things to look forward too.
I'm not very religious, but I find religion interesting...I don't necessarily follow it. I'm more spirtitual than religious. Praying for me has never helped...I don't mean to sound bad...but I find relying on people and the love of people around you helps more. Find someone you love and just hold on to them...Please dont commit suicide. :(
Go to some councilling, you might have clinical depression which can be treated with medication.
*****Also, if "God's not changing you"...maybe he doesn't want you to change!! If you are really religious, have you ever considered that maybe God isn't changing you because he wants you to help other gay people, and help other people realize that being gay isn't a sin...and help all the millions of other gay people, God's people, to live in happiness and enjoy their lives that God gave them?
2007-03-09 04:05:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 2⤋