I already have 16 kids (see my first question if you want to know the family story), ages 10 mo., and 6-19. with twins on the way. Her 2 kids are ages 2 and 3. personally, i don't know if me and my husband would be able to handle 20 kids. If i don't take them, they go in foster care. the 2 year old is a girl, Zoe. and the 3 year old is a boy, Jonah. the other kids are all for it (the majority of them anyway). my husband is a little weary on how we're going to afford it, but he's ready to take them in with open arms). i love them to death. but 20 kids is alot.Help!!!!
2007-03-09 03:55:36 · 23 answers · asked by luv my kids nasty comm. unwanted 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to discuss this with a Family Law lawyer.
2007-03-09 03:57:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you already have 16, you would have thought somewhere along the line he would have panicked. I sure would have after two. I highly doubt whether two of her kids would make a huge difference in your food or clothing bill. I mean after all you have a huge family already. As your children get older they will get part time jobs if they are in school hopefully and help out. Your sisters kids will never ever forgive you for not taking them in and how can you do this in your sisters situation. I say take them in and do the right thing. You must love kids though. Wow that is something. Good luck and please think of how horrible those kids will feel and in foster care you can meet up with horrible abuse, sexual abuse and sometimes torture. You cannot do that them.
2007-03-09 12:36:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a big decision, I know. But I really believe you should take in these children. Too many awful things happen to kids in foster care, typically speaking. The children could get seperated, which is the worst thing for them at this time. They really need a strong supportive family (hopefully a relative like you) and it might be a big stretch, but you'd be giving these kids a home and a family together.
2007-03-09 12:02:40 · answer #3 · answered by leaysa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you already taken care of 16 kids a few more wont be a big deal I think your sister would rather you take care of them than put them in foster care. Foster care is the last thing you want for the kids. I think if you don't take them you will regret it later. You might want to check to see if you can get some sort of assistance for taken care of them. You might be able to get government assistance. You can also probably get assistance from a church.
2007-03-09 12:02:54 · answer #4 · answered by ♫Rock'n'Rob♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry about your sister. if you and your husband can afford it and you and all the kids really want to, i would say it's ok. you have to consider if you really have room for them, i can't imagine how big your house must be. if the older kids help out a lot with the younger ones it shouldn't be that much harder to take care of your sisters kids too. it's just a matter of food, space, and money in figuring out if you can physically take them in. 20 kids is a lot of, plus you and your husband means 22 people all living together. there's absolutely no one else in the family willing to take them that you or your sister trusts?
2007-03-09 12:03:05 · answer #5 · answered by nica ha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay 20 kids. Easier then 16! I have 30 (Foster care provider) and it's simple!
2007-03-11 15:39:18 · answer #6 · answered by BLAH BLAH BLAH! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i think you should take them in you seem to love children and you have to think of these poor baby's that are gonna loose there mother i also have a niece who lives with me (my sister died age 30) she has been with me for 3 years and it is hard but how would you feel if these 2 poor baby's were taken into care those baby's are gonna need all the love you and your family can give them good luck x
2007-03-09 12:09:56 · answer #7 · answered by andrea.barrett36 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! 16 kids of your own?? Is there any other siblings that would be willing to take them in?? I envy you to be able to raise that many children...I say if you could afford them, then why not keep the family together?
2007-03-09 12:01:00 · answer #8 · answered by Angelbaby79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
20 is'nt thaat far from 18. You two need to explore all of your financial options. You need to take a life insurance policy out on her so maybe you will have some support.
2007-03-09 11:59:53 · answer #9 · answered by Khalil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, it doesn't seem like you'll pay attention to yahoo answers. You have 16 kids in one household already. I see that you aren't totally connected to reality as well. Why not ask this Jesus fellow what he thinks, or does he only answer when he's not busy?
2007-03-09 12:00:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it, sounds horrible I know, but your family comes first, there might be other realitives or someone on your sisters ex's side that could help. Try not to do the foster care part, but your warn down enough as it is. Try other alternatives adding two kids will put more strain on you and finacially
2007-03-09 11:59:13 · answer #11 · answered by Juleette 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋