Okay...so I wasn't even thinking when I did this...but I invited a guy that is interested in me to my house for dinner. We've hung out a couple of times but it was kind of in a group setting, so I really haven't talked to him one on one. So when I invited him over my house for dinner he said okay...but I don't think he knows I still live at home with my family. Would this scare you if you were a guy?? I'm thinking about just going somewhere else for dinner. Because I don't want him to think I'm moving to fast...because I'm not. I'm just really close to my family. Yeah I'm a dork!! Suggestions please
2007-03-09 03:54:02 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think you should take him out somewhere for dinner, because i know a lot of my guy friends freak out when they meet a girls parents or family, they think the girl is moving to fast and wants something really serious, so just take it slow go out for dinner to a nice restaurant and when the time is right bring him home to mama
2007-03-09 03:58:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how comfortable you are with him. If you really want to have dinner with him but don't know much about him yet, then dinner elsewhere would be a better idea. However, you are very close to your family. So it is great to tell him the truth that your family will be there when he comes over. Who knows, he may be a family person and like the idea. It is you that is important and not the part about you still live at home with your family. Focus between the two of you first.
2007-03-09 04:05:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you forgot to mention the most important thing, and that is how old you are. If you are 30 and you live with your parents, I would very strongly suggest going elsewhere for dinner. If you are 18-23 or in a close range, you should not be embarrassed. But you know, either way, it's always better to go outside. At your house, he might even try to push the game too far if you know what I mean. Safer outside with people around.
2007-03-09 03:57:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you might want to tell him that before he actually arrives, otherwise it could be a bit of a surprise. I mean if a girl invited me over for dinner, I'd be rather surprised (and disappointed) if there were other people there. It doesn't matter if these other people were family or roommates, I'd like to know ahead of time who else is going to be there, you know?
Besides, telling him in advance that it's going to be with your family can only save you trouble. If he's going to be turned off by the fact you live with your parents, it's going to happen whether you tell him now or let him find out when he shows up. If he's going to bail, at least you've saved yourself the trouble of an awkward dinner date with a guy who suddenly doesn't want to be there.
2007-03-09 03:58:48 · answer #4 · answered by P.I. Joe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would just get hold of him and tell him that....oh. By the way, I still live with my folks. Then say that maybe you should go OUT to dinner instead if he would prefer. Kind of lean towards going out so that he doesn't feel like he's obligated to have to go to meet your parents. I mean to me that seems like you are bringing him home to meet the parents and yea. I'd be scared if I were him. He probably thought it would just be the 2 of you. Just explain to him that you wanted to be nice and have him over but you didn't realize that the setting would maybe be uncomfortable. By offering to eat out at least this gives him a chance to take control of what could be an awkward situation. Good luck.
2007-03-09 03:59:54 · answer #5 · answered by Me2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, this might be a bit much, it's like bringing him home to meet the family like he's marriage potential. Suggest going out somewhere instead, so the two of you can get to know each other, and then later on invite him to a more casual family situation, like a family barbeque, where he won't be the only guest.
2007-03-09 03:57:57 · answer #6 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the guy, but I'd say a dinner with the family is not appropriate for your first get together one on one...in the old days it would have been a requirement, but times change. I'd say go out to eat somewhere your first time hooking up one on one. If the guys is very confident and cool cat he probably wouldn't mind eating with the family, he might even enjoy it if your family is cool, but it would probably take a special guy.....may be a good litmus test to see if he is a special guy or not...???
2007-03-09 04:01:54 · answer #7 · answered by Howdy Girls 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you are a dork! You hardly know the poor guy and you invite him to dinner with your family??? Think about it......how would you feel if he did that to you? Not a very comfortable situation to put anyone in!
2007-03-09 03:58:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course it would scare him no offense if he was white probably not but look at it he's a black man girl. What you should of did was waited until your fam was gone then invite him for some dinner....but look here don't call yourself a dork because God ain't No Dork he made everyone in his image just tell your man that yall be better off going out because he will probably like his picks of food instead what your family's picking....or tell him something like your mom didn't feel up to cooking
2007-03-09 03:58:23 · answer #9 · answered by Candie gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest going out somewhere for dinner, maybe in the next few times you can invite him to your house
2007-03-09 03:57:31 · answer #10 · answered by Jared P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋