I want a committment, he doesn't. I'm not seeing other people, but he talks to other women on the phone all the time. I'm not very comfortable with that. It seems like once a week we go back & fourth because we both want this to be something that it's not. However, we keep holding on. I keep trying to be ok with the situation but I'm not. I think he keeps trying to get me to be ok with the situation by telling me that he understands I'm at a transition in my life & he does appreciate me, but he doesn't want to commit. I told him that I no longer want to burden him with my emotional mood swings about it all because it ways heavy on my heart because I care a great deal about him. I just don't think I've been being fair to myself. What should I do? I don't want to let him go but I can't deal with the other women & I'm whinning to him about it all the time.
2007-03-09 03:47:37 · 10 answers · asked by geminig 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It seems very clear, that he doesn't REALLY appreciate you.....
he doesn't want a commitment, and seems to be leaving his options open to these other women..... I think that you really care for him, but he doesn't seem to be the right one for what you are looking for.... sometimes it is better to move on, instaed of trying to wait for him to change his mind...... which he may never do! If he really cared for you the way you need to be cared for, then there wouldn't be all this fighting, and you shouldn't have to feel bad about a relationship...... think about it, and good luck.
2007-03-09 03:55:55 · answer #1 · answered by erin_foss8191@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as though you have alot more feelings than he does. He sounds like a player. If you're looking for a real relationship, get rid of him and find a guy who is willing to commit. No sense whinning as you say, you're not gonna change him. If all he can do is make excuses for his behavior instead of doing something to satisfy you, then you don't need him. No matter how much you care about him and don't want to lose him, the fact is you don't have him. Let him play the field. You're allowing him to take advantage of you if you are settling for less than what you want!!
2007-03-09 11:54:23 · answer #2 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well he's already told you that he doesn't want a committment. You are right, you are not being fair to yourself. You know that you want a committment. Why should you put up with this situation if ultimately it's making you and him unhappy (all the whinning and complaining)? If you decide to put up with the other ladies than fine, but I suggest you find someone who is willing to committ. You'll be happier in the end.
2007-03-09 11:53:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend and you don't have to break up you and him can come up with a compromise that you can both agree on but you have to be willing to sit down and talk about your problems and tell him that you don't like it when he talk to other women on the phone and that you don't like it when he whines about it. Keep telling him that you care about him and want to work things out, If he is not willing to compromise then do what you have to do but only after you have seeked many options and can not come up with anything else and the relationship is beyond repair.
2007-03-09 11:57:16 · answer #4 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either let go or quit whining. You're holding on and whining which gives him more reason not to commit. Who wants to commit to a whiny clingy woman?
Unless you're highly unattractive and/or old, you can find another man quickly. If you continue to hold on, you deserve what you receive.
2007-03-09 11:52:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let him go - "he does not want to commit" - find someone that feels the same about you as you do him.
2007-03-09 11:53:59 · answer #6 · answered by NAN G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should let him go.
If you want to commit and he doesn't, you guys are at 2 different points in life. Move on.
2007-03-09 11:51:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anakin Skywalker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need 2 free urself, as long as u ACCEPT & LET him talk 2 otha women he' s never going 2 stop, next he'll be telling u he got a baby on d way. free urself
2007-03-09 11:53:44 · answer #8 · answered by pretty black 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
heney....get a grip....it is not going to change...you can't make him love you and you can't make him commit so stop wasting your time and move on...good luck
2007-03-09 11:53:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think he gets bored with you. i feel that way at times. he needs other contacts.
2007-03-09 11:51:20 · answer #10 · answered by xxsmileformehxx 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋