the been together for a yr and half and no nothing not even a kiss or a hug
Do u think she is just using him and not feel love for him
2007-03-09 03:41:08 · 23 answers · asked by unverified 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The use of "Jew" as an adjective is a sign of anti-Semitism.
If that is also your friend's problem, I can understand why she rejects him.
2007-03-10 07:23:38 · answer #1 · answered by Ivri_Anokhi 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Assuming that this girl is a practicing ORTHODOX Jew, there is a very simple explanation for this..
The tradition is called נגיעה ('negiah') which translates loosely to touching or feeling. Negiah is a practice that forbids "physical contact with, or touching of, a member of the opposite sex (particularly in an erotic manner), except for one's spouse, children, grandchildren, parents, and grandparents."1 This originates from scripture, Leviticus 18:6, to be exact.
Moreso, this is a custom of refrain and control. It's not that she doesn't want to touch your friend, or hug him or kiss him, even but it's that she chooses to maintain control over the physical aspects of her life. In her faith, she remains pure until marriage and shows a commitment to God.
This is a practice that should be DISCUSSED openly between your friend and the girl he is dating, as it is a significant life choice. She's certainly not using your friend and it's fine to worry, but that just isn't the case. If your friend is truly interested in her, then he will adjust and come to understand the meaning behind all of it. Hopefully you can too!
2007-03-11 23:26:17 · answer #2 · answered by Wesley P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does her being Jewish have to do with anything? And FYI, it's "a Jewish girl," not "a jew girl." Be careful of your prejudices here.
It depends on their age and upbringing. If they are still teenagers, this isn't so weird - she simply might not be ready for physical intimacy. If she was raised in a very conservative household, she might believe that physical intimacy before marriage - or with someone you don't intend to marry - is inappropriate. Some people are simply not comfortable expressing their affection that way.
It's doubtful she is "just using him" - what does he offer her, and what does she offer him? If your friend is happy, there is no reason for you to butt in. If you friend is unhappy, then he needs to decide for himself what he really needs. If he is confused, he should ask her and find out why she isn't physically affectionate. But there's just not enough information here to form a good guess.
2007-03-09 03:52:48 · answer #3 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being jewish doesnt' have anything to do for the lack of phisical contact with your friend, after a year if there hasn't been a hug or a kiss, that's pretty much a year lost. Your friend should be a bit smarter. It's far from obvious she doesn't care about him. Tell your friend to start dating somebody else, and be smarter next time.
2007-03-09 03:47:20 · answer #4 · answered by Frank the tank 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The phrasing of your question "Jew girl," sounds a bit biased but I'm sure you meant no harm. Maybe the girl has certain values. Believe it or not, there are still girls who save themselves for marriage. I say kudos to this girl for not allowing anyone to "use her up." If more girls would follow suit, there wouldn't be as many unwanted pregnancies and STD's. Don't judge her. Maybe he needs a looser girl if he can't wait.
2007-03-09 03:48:58 · answer #5 · answered by bombastic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's odd. Maybe she's the shy type. I know that theyre culture is highly different from ours, as far as dating goes espially if their younger. I dont think it means she doesnt feel anything for him or anything, but because her culture shares certain different beliefs than our society, that may be why. He should try asking her. If he's not feeling the fact that she's not able to show affection the way he wants her to, it might be wise for him to find someone who is more compatible with him.
2007-03-09 03:47:03 · answer #6 · answered by alonnac20 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why "jew girl"? Why not a girl who is of the jewish faith, or for that matter why mention her religion at all? You sound like you are a little racist and very uninformed. I am not even answering the question. I am just appalled at your statements.
2007-03-09 03:53:54 · answer #7 · answered by Alchemist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, no one refers to someone as a "jew girl". You could say she is Jewish but you shouldn't call her that. Also, what does the fact that she is Jewish have to do with this? I don't see the connection.
You would have to give us more information to assess this situation. I could come up with 50 answers to this based on personal speculation but that wouldn't resolve anything.
2007-03-09 03:45:23 · answer #8 · answered by alcoh71 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
excuse my english when i ask: why did u even bring up the word jew?? i am not a jew but i find it very strange. does it have anything to do with what ur talking about? why did u even mention it? lighten up and go a little deeper than shallow surfaces
2007-03-09 04:55:03 · answer #9 · answered by Mirt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what does being jewish have to do with giving someone a hug? just b/c she is jewish doesnt mean that she would use someone. Maybe it is against her religion or something. You should not judge people by their heritage.
2007-03-09 03:44:28 · answer #10 · answered by gibby411892003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋