What would you say...?

Question

My mother in law is heavily into religion. If anyone has read my posts, you'll see that she can be a little over the top. In the past, I have told my mother in law that I don't want to discuss religion and have gotten into a fight about it because she tries to push it on me and my husband. She tells me that I need to get rid of my husband's violent movies and get him to listen to religious music. I am a Christian. I went to catholic school for 9 years and I taught in a catholic school for 6 years.
Ever since our fight, she's slowly talking about religion again. It burns me up inside because I told her that I don't want to discuss. My husband (her son) doesn't agree with parts of her religion either but lets her talk to appease her. But everytime she's here in our house...it never fails. I know it's a big part of her life but there are other things to talk about and I just feel like she's disreguarding what I said.
What can I say or should I just suck it up and deal with it

Answer 1

I have never seen any of your posts and I don't know what all is happening. However I don't believe that there is nothing wrong with standing up for yourself. If you have asked her to not to discuss this with you then she needs to respect that especially in your home. Your husband should also take up for you. I realize that she is his mom but you are his wife and he should ask his mom to respect you in your home - now in her home that is a different story. You may just have to excuse yourself and leave. I think I missed what religion your mother in law is but in any case and especially if she is a christian - we should be sharing our faith in a loving way -- not in a way that makes people uneasy. Hope it all works out.

Answer 2

Sit down again and talk to your mother-in-law. Let her know that you do not feel comfortable with her talking about religion the way she is. She can't push religion on anybody. When she starts talking about the topic, change the subject. If that doesn't work walk away from her. If she continues to bring it up, then I would tell her she can't come over until she stops talking about it all together when she is at your home. Good Luck.

Answer 3

My mother is the same way, but I've gently let her know I do NOT like to discuss this, and I'm not a religious freak like she is. Instead of fighting, tell her, "You are more than welcome to come over, but we will not discuss religion with you. We can talk about anything else, but no religion while you are here."

Other than that, you will have to be more firm, but do NOT suck it up. It's YOUR house, not hers.

Answer 4

Mother-in-laws.....oh I feel your pain...... mine wasn't religious, just stuck her nose in everywhere!!!!! Look, it is your house, and if she is coming over and trying to stuff this down your throat.......... tell her she isn't welcome unless she can respect your feelings on the matter.......Your husband may not like this idea, but, it is your life too...... Don't be rude about it, just say listen...... I have asked to not discuss your religious beliefs to me, and it is obvious that you won't let it be, so maybe we need some distance for a while.......

Answer 5

I have a similar issue. My husband tries to force his views about religion on others. His mother and myself tell him to shut up because we don't wanna hear it. He'll keep trying, but enough times of being told to either leave, change the subject, or shut up.. he gets the picture ! Sometimes ya gotta be bold and let someone have it. She'll get mad, but she'll get over it ! Each time it happens let her know... she can change to another subject, she can shut up about it, or she can leave.. it works for me every time (after a few tries each)!

Answer 6

if you've tried so many times to tell her you don't want to talk about it, i dont see why she is still forcing it. i think you should just tell her why you don't want to talk to her about it, and if she brings it up again, just don't give into the conversation. just try and switch the direction of the conversation. honestly, im not sure wht to tell you, but i hope this helps. =]

Answer 7

She has no respect for you. You might want to spend a little less time with her for a while, and maybe she will get the clue.

Answer 8

you know you don't have to see her as often. don't be disrespectful either but just avoid her.

Answer 9

Move away.