how can I get back in his boxers? There is this guy I admire. Off and on, we have known each other for more.?

Question

than 5 yrs. 1.5 yrs ago, we started getting more intimate. We were talking more. I think he is the greatest thing since fire! Anyway, we both have some problems in our lives. Even though we didn't consider ourselves a couple, there is no one I would rather be with. Weeks ago, he left me a message saying basically that he had a lot going on to think about a relationship. I didn't listen to the rest of the message. I didn't pick up any of his calls for two days. Then he calls my office, when the receptionist ask his name, he says Derrick. (Derrick is a friend of mine). He was very pissed that I pick up the call, but none of his. It a week or so later, when we talked, but to me it seemed so distant. We met to "hung-out" at his cousin place. We started to have sex. I started crying, got up, put my clothes on and left. He seemed distant to me, but he said he was not. Again we talked. He say I am still his homie. he says we will never have sex again. how do I change that? I really want him!

Answer 1

You've been a nutcase and treated him badly several times over. Now you want another chance.

What's more, he likes you as a person, and is afraid that you're making the wrong decision to have sex with him and will just get upset all over again.

So here's what you should do. Talk to him. Apologize for all your bad behavior. Then tell him you're absolutely available to have sex with him and you really want to.

He'll probably say that he thinks it's a bad idea, both for him and for you.

Then ask him to explain why he thinks it's a bad idea for YOU. And talk about it. CALMLY. Even if you cry, cry calmly and don't run out the door.

If you two agree that he's wrong, THEN there's a good chance of deciding it's a good idea for him too.

Good luck!