I have been none stop crying for three days now cause i'm not myself anymore. Two weeks ago i lie to my boyfriend i was pregnant cause he decided to break off the relationship. I didnt want him to leave because i cant live without him. So i came up with this lie about been pregnant. Many times he keeps ask me if its truth i keep saying yes. Tomorrow, he wants to meet with me cause he doesnt believe me. How do i undo what i did? Will he leave me? How do i carry on with my life?
2007-03-09 03:35:18 · 29 answers · asked by 2006xx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are not the first girl to try and keep her partner, by telling them that they are pregnant.However, it was wrong. I am very sorry, you felt you had to go to such lengths, by lieing about a pregnancy that does not exist. TRAPPING someone into a relationship will only lead to resentment, anger, and too many problems to list. Think about this? Do you really want to" trick" someone into staying with you, because of a situation, and not for Loving YOU? You are actually lucky, that a baby is not involved here. Too many people stay together for a child, and most often the relationship ends in disaster. The child in these type of situations, are the ones who end up paying the price. Tell your bf what you did, but do not expect him to take you back, after all, he wanted to end the relationship. You must accept, that sometimes the people we love, do not always love us back, the way that we want them to. Losing a bf is not the end of the world. Get your priorities straight, move forward, and learn from your mistakes.YOU WILL be able to carry on in your life.
2007-03-09 04:15:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honey what you did was completely wrong. I know that you don't want to hear anything negative, but I don't think you can undo what you have done. He broke up with you for a reason, you probably could have got him back, but now you took a road where it's going to be hard for him to forgive you. I believe that he will leave you, and that lie is going to make it so much easier for him to walk away and not look back. If you truly want him back, you have to tell him the truth and state why you lied in the first place, that might change his mind....MIGHT! How do you carry on? Though it might be hard, you just have to let go, understand that you and him didn't work, learn from your mistakes and go on from there. Andd for future reference, getting pregnant or saying your pregnant is not going to keep a man, if he doesn't want to be with, there's nothing you can do. GOOD LUCK 2 U!
2007-03-09 11:45:41 · answer #2 · answered by T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a huge lie, and totally NOT cool. You can apologize, but you can not undo that.
If he wants to break up, you can't change that.
You're life will continue. My guess is that you're VERY young. You sound clingy and obsessive. While we all like to be loved and wanted, you sound like you go way too far. CALM DOWN. I bet it was your drama that pushed him away in the first place.
Learn from your mistakes, re-evaluate what you're doing, find some positivie activities to fill your time, and all will turn out fine. Put away the tissue box and go out this weekend, even if it's just to walk at the mall or something. You'll be fine. I promise.
2007-03-09 11:44:09 · answer #3 · answered by Voice_Of_Reason 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all that is not something that you lie about. That is wrong, and if he doesn't want to be with you anymore than that is something that you have to accept. You can't make a person love you and want to stay with you. Things in life happen and you have to move on. You will be fine. It will hurt for a while, but eventually the pain will subside. Carry on with your life, and time heals all. Yes, he will probably leave you, but you shouldn't have lied about that in the first place.
2007-03-09 11:39:41 · answer #4 · answered by In love with Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you did is very wrong. You need to tell him whether he leaves or not. You are holding him hostage and if he stays it will be for all the wrong reasons. You will never feel happy knowing you lied to him and when he finds out he will not be happy with you. This is the wrong and worst kind of game to ever play on a man. End his suffering now and eventually you will feel better.
2007-03-09 11:42:40 · answer #5 · answered by Alchemist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Saying that you are pregnant will not solve your relationship problems. Either he is going to except you the way that you are or he needs to leave. You deserve so much better. It may seem hard at first but get you a good book to occupy your time with. You will be just fine, maybe even happier, without you.
2007-03-09 11:40:50 · answer #6 · answered by Cherri 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You cant stop someone from leaving when they are ready to go...he obviously doesnt feel for you the way you feel for him...the best thing to do is just tell him the truth and let him go...who knows he may come back to you in the end...but honestly why be with someone who doesnt want to be with you? You need to let him go...you will be okay I promise.
God Bless.
2007-03-09 11:41:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, seeing as how he was already going to leave you, I'm thinking he's still going to leave you when you tell the truth. Which you should do. Because eventually your bump isn't going to grow and it will be obvious you were lying. Just own up to it now.
2007-03-09 11:38:37 · answer #8 · answered by sarah k 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a very serious issue. One thing I am certain of is that you can not get the type of help you need on this type of forum. I strongly suggest that you seek a professional psychologist that can more personally and intimately talk to you about your concerns.
2007-03-09 11:42:07 · answer #9 · answered by Aubie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to tell him the truth, because he will find out eventually. And then, if he doesn't want to be with you, you have to move on because if you don't, he will start to hate you. It is much better to have a friend you love than to have someone you love hate you.
2007-03-09 11:39:57 · answer #10 · answered by dusmul78 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋