I'm confronting this issue on two fronts. One, my own mother, has been (I believe) depressed for a long time but is absolutely stubborn about talking to anyone or seeking help about it. Secondly, my gf's mom is older, on the verge of menapause (according to MD) and has shown extreme signs of being bi-polar; now and long before I met her according to my gf. She is against therapy too; especially, to add difficulty, she is Asian-a cultutre that is not open to therapy as much as western societies. I think they both need to get meds and have someone (a professional; not a family member) to talk to. They are completely intolerable; and it makes it worse that they don't seek a solution for the problem. I can't take hearing my parents complain about it and my gf as well. It's becoming too much and I'm thinking of disowning all of them. I feel they are so selfish to just let it go on and to expect everyone to deal with it. Have you dealt with this?
2007-03-09 03:27:06 · 10 answers · asked by 46&2 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
The big eye opener for you is to understand if you are that depressed you really can't see a reason to try to get better because you just do not care!!! There is nothing that will snap them out of it and nothing you can say. They do not realize how much it affects others and if they did it would just bum them out more. Unless someone is sick of living like that and really want to get better, they won't do a damn thing about it. Especially harder since these women are older and set in their ways. My mom has been depressed for years and years and I have asked her to get help until I am blue in the face. I finally came to the conclusion that I have to live my own life and just cut these people out of my life, I had to so I can be happy and not think I can fix everybody else. That is not fair to think you can solve others problems, it just doesn't work and will only suffocate you in the long run. Just do what is best for you and don't get sucked in.
2007-03-09 04:06:59 · answer #1 · answered by l'il mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-09 04:06:12 · answer #2 · answered by pool_boy_77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a tough one. i have dealt with it with my mother and husband. despite many years of trying, i have had no luck with my mother, but she has a more complicated mental illness. i have had some success with my husband by saying the very same thing you said at the end. that his depression is having a negative effect on his family for several years now. and although i understand that depression is a very hard illness, there is a limit to how much patience i will have with someone who simply refuses to lift a finger to help themselves. there are many treatments for depression, so even if a person is against a specific treatment, they could try something else. if they refuse to try anything, then i must conclude that either they like things the way they are, or they don't care at all about the feelings of anyone around them. i was depressed after the birth of my son, and i sought help immediately, so that he would not have to suffer the consequences.
2007-03-09 03:39:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, You just need to get them to a general practitioner (MD) who can prescribe medicine. The lady going into menopause should already have some type of medicine for that--which would make a huge difference. Really, it's the pills that get them relief--the therapist can come later, so that they can talk out their problems and feelings. Good luck--if either of them is like my mom was, she won't even go to the doctor.
2007-03-09 03:54:10 · answer #4 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a very common problem. Unlike other ailments people afflicted with mental problems almost always refuse medication.The problem is part of their personality and they do not want to lose it! You may have to administer the medicine without their knowledge.Ask your psychiatrist.He will tell you how to go about it.
2007-03-09 03:42:47 · answer #5 · answered by Padmini Gopalan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could somehow get their regular physicians to ask them leading questions about their well-being. Acupuncture could help. On "The View" today the whole hour was dedicated to depression...maybe the website will have info to help you.
2007-03-09 03:57:29 · answer #6 · answered by lida 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cannot help someone who will not help themselves.....do all you can do, but understand that any true change comes from the person that needs the help. This is not selfish on your part, just the way it is and has to be.
2007-03-09 05:08:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
could you find a therapist that will come to them? some will make house calls, but I don't know how many. worst case, if they are a danger to themselves or others (actual physical harm) you can Baker Act them and have them commited.
2007-03-09 03:37:48 · answer #8 · answered by wendy_da_goodlil_witch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they are against therapy...fine..buy them a pistol and let them have at it..too many people are whiners...scared to grab thier own socks and pull thier own @ss up
2007-03-09 03:36:28 · answer #9 · answered by Michael K 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
lol
2007-03-09 14:17:55 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋