I've been dating a guy for 3 months, everything was perfect. He was treating me like a queen. He even introduced me to his family. But we both had traumatic break ups before and we agreed to take things slowly. But one day he showed up and told me that he had to be honest and that he misses his ex. He said he was confused. And didn't want to hurt me.I was shoked and told him to decide if he really wants to be with me or not, because I don't want to be with the guy who is not sure. He disappeared right after that... vanished. I miss him so much, but don't know if it's better to move on or wait.
2007-03-09 03:24:44 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should wait for a few weeks; he might have infatuation strike with his ex.
2007-03-09 03:30:34 · answer #1 · answered by hmmm 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I guess, first of all, how old are you? If you are in your early 20s, you can afford to wait if that is what you choose, you can still have fun hanging out. You dont need to be attached. If you are older and he just vanished like that, may you should move on and get ahead with your life. I had a similar situation likes yours, he left me for his ex, I dated a little and hung out, and he ended up coming back. I'm almost 30 now. If it was meant to be it will be. If he totally vanished off the face of the earth though, then I guess moving on is better. Maybe you know deep down in your heart what is right, search it.
2007-03-09 03:33:32 · answer #2 · answered by the v girl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it would be a good thing to wait for him, if he didn't think of you when he suddenly disappeared, then it's unfair for you to hurt the way you're hurting now. I say you move on without him, because the only way you'll get over him is by moving on, and by taking care of who's important in this situation, yourself.
My advice here would be to move on, and once he realizes that he made a mistake, you'll be the one to stand up and say 'you missed your chance the day you disappeared on me'.
Good luck sweetie, you can do it :O)
2007-03-09 03:31:03 · answer #3 · answered by ☆Karma☆ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what are you waiting on?..He has already moved on. 3 months?..You should just go out and meet others. Keep taking things slowly and get to know urself better. Try not to be bitter. And appreciate the fact that he ws honest and allowed you the option of moving on instead of be dishonest and seeing both of you.
2007-03-17 04:20:59 · answer #4 · answered by Myleena 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Appreciate the good times you shared and the honesty he had. I also had one of these kind of relationships (best one I ever had) but he too went back with his ex and because the break up was not ugly, no fighting, name calling, I moved on from it much quicker than the ones where the relationship got ugly. I understand what this feels like but honey do move on. I wish you alot!!!!
2007-03-17 04:19:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats funny with this question is, even if we all give you answers, "moving on" is going to come from the heart. My daughter is 21,and going thru the same thing. Ex wives,girlfriends,etc. always have the upper hand. Don't settle for 2nd....
2007-03-17 03:12:35 · answer #6 · answered by kcbarbieq 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move ON.... deffinatley move on...
his ex was an ex for a reason. he will go back and try again and it wont work out. most often doesnt... if he knows your moving on and you insitll the fear of him losing you, it might work in your favor... date others, but dont get serious just incase he comes back around.. find some hobbies, keep busy. you might even be over him before u know it.
2007-03-09 03:29:21 · answer #7 · answered by coco 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be his rebound. He has obviously given it a go to move on himself from his ex and it hasn't worked for him.
You are lucky to have found out now, rather than months later.
You will get over him.
Time for you to move on too.
2007-03-17 04:25:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on if he missed his ex you aren't the one his heart is with. Sorry. You will find the one who is right for you, walk away.
2007-03-17 02:39:05 · answer #9 · answered by Dianne S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. If he was happy with you, he wouldn't have been missing his ex. Take the hint!!! Love takes two people involved.
2007-03-17 03:01:55 · answer #10 · answered by teacher sub 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its the best for you to move on because your life is important to you than wait for him and have him think that his life is important to you, no way. There will have better guys than him and won't be confuse you. Good luck.
2007-03-09 03:31:09 · answer #11 · answered by MissGal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋