We just moved into a house and want to plan a party for my 2 year old at our house. My mother and mother in law do NOT get along at all. I know this will make me feel uncomfortable. What should I do?
2007-03-09 03:16:49 · 25 answers · asked by qtpie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Throw the party for your child, and keep in mind that it's about the kiddo, and not the adults. If they can't put their differences aside for a grandchild, don't invite either one.
2007-03-09 03:19:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing except warn both mothers to take care and not spoil the party for your 2 year old. It is both women's responsibility to get along or make everyone uncomfortable and it is your duty to invite both grandmothers. You have no choice. If either one expects you to choose between them and favor only one, don't do it!! You just continue to be fair and the more mature person, regardless of your age. They can't keep putting you in the middle like this! It spoils your life too.
2007-03-09 04:06:14 · answer #2 · answered by Pamela 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could help you, I have the same problem, excpet my mother and mother in law both fight over who takes care of the kids, who holds which kids etc. etc. It makes me very stressed and unhappy, cause Im constantly trying to make everyone happy. I just gave up. I just let them do there thing and now they finally worked something out. Im thinking they must have talked on the phone or something. I know Im not really answering your question. But if I had an answer, I would, I just wanted to let you know that your not the only one with that problem!! It sucks I know!! Good Luck I hope things work out for you!
2007-03-09 03:21:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine never got along either. You can plan a party for each of the grandparents or you can bite the bullet and have them together. Ask them to set aside their differences for one day out of respect for the child's special day. Only you can make the decision on which will go more smoothly. We finally just had separate parties. One with my parents and one with hers. We did the same with Christmas also. It just works better and the kiddos love the extra attention.
2007-03-09 03:24:33 · answer #4 · answered by Alchemist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite them both, you have to. But, have an honest conversation with each of them before the party. Tell them it's for your 2 yr old, you want them both there, you understand that they don't get along, but you need them to be civil to eachother. Even if that just means completely avoiding eachother.
If they know it's important to you, they should be able to bite their tongues for a few hours!
2007-03-09 03:22:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you get them both together before the party to have a talk. Explain to them that whether they like each other or not, they'll occasionally have to deal with each other if they want to be a part of ou, your husband's, and your children's lives. Ask them which is more important...their petty differences or being there to witness the lives of their children and grandchildren. Just tell them how you feel and express to them that you don't think it's fair to be put in the middle because you love them both and you want them both to be a part of your life. They're grown-ups....they should be able to agree to disagree.
2007-03-09 03:21:09 · answer #6 · answered by OhKatie! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the party without inviting either of them. When they ask why they were not invited, be honest. They will have to decide if not getting along is more important that being invited to your family events in the future.
2007-03-09 03:19:22 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your mother and mother in law both in separte rooms. Or ask them both to talk out their problems that they have with each other. Let them know how you feel about the whole situation.
2007-03-09 06:35:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have two seperate parties so that they are not there at the same time. It is extremely immature that the two cannot find a way to get along for you and your husband's marriage and their grandchildrens sake but it looks like that is what you have to deal with.
Good luck!
2007-03-09 03:22:47 · answer #9 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a talk with both of them for your daughter/son's sake and the grandchild they both share. Tell them both if they can't get along for their grandchilds sake, you'll have no choice but to ask them BOTH to leave. And stick by it! If they can't behave like grown adults and put their problems on back burner long enough for your child to be happy then leave! It's your childs big day. Not theirs! Good luck!
2007-03-09 03:21:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋