Do we bring a gift?

Question

Hi everyone,

Some friends of our's are renewing their wedding vow's, They have been married for ten years with three children. When they got married they eloped so this time around they want to share it with friends and family.
My question is...Do we still bring a gift? And if so would a monatary gift be alright? It's a small reception at a local restaurant. I don't know that many details of the dinner and drinks situation so I'm not sure how much of a monatary gift we should give?

Their good friends but not really close friends, My husband went to school with the husband and they coach boy's hockey in the fall and winter together.

Thak You for any help.

Answer 1

A gift would be appropriate. Monetary gifts are always welcome, especially since they probably aren't registered and have most of what they need already. Another alternative is a gift card to a store that they frequent. They could always upgrade some of the items they have in their home now!

Good luck!

Answer 2

My husband and I are having a big party for our 10th anniversary coming up and we are not expecting gifts. In fact we are putting on our reception card that there should be no gifts given. I would hope that these friends of yours would also not be looking for gifts (honestly, what would you need after 10 years? An new TV? You have everything by now) So I would say no, no gifts are necessary, just a nice card.

If you are still unsure though and feel as if you should get them at least something, I would suggest a gift cert to a restaraunt, probably a family friendly one like Fridays or Applebees, someplace where they will be able to use it (fancier places dont usually offer GCs anyway). But it doesnt need to be a big or expensive gift. Remember that they have already had their wedding and recieved gifts (you still get gifts is you marry in a JP's office) this is an anniversary, not a wedding.

Answer 3

Ask around and find out if other people are bringing gifts. They couple may have expressed a desire to recieve no gifts. If that isn't the case, and they've already been married with kids for so long, I would say money is more than appropriate since wedding gifts are usually stuff for your house. They probably already have all the stuff they need for their house and really just want to be able to afford to throw a good party. Another good idea is a gift card or certificate to a favorite restaurant so they can have a romantic evening. Just give whatever amount you're comfortable with. No one is going to snub a gift, and if they do, who needs them?

Answer 4

Find out who the brides maid is an give her a call. Ask if she has set up a wishing well for the bride and groom. This is where people donate money in a decorated basket or whatever, adn they bride and groom can use it towards somthing of their choice. A vaction they might go on later, things around the house etc. the great thing about this is that it is confidential you dont know how much someone else put in and they dont know how much you put in. As far as the amount, imagine you were going to buy them a gift for their house( like if it were there first wedding) how much would it be. maybe 40 - 80 dollars. pick somthing in this range that you can best afford. Hope this helps! Good luck and good health to you.

Answer 5

My grandparents just renewed their vows (50 years of marriage). Anyways, they did get some gifts, mostly monetary and restaurant gift cards. They weren't expecting gifts, but they really liked the restaurant gift cards, cause they were able to enjoy a nice dinner together. I don't think it is expected like it is for a wedding though. It's very nice of you to think of a gift, but if you can't afford it or feel funny about it, then I am sure they just want you to show up and help them celebrate their long marriage. :)

Answer 6

Bring a small gift having a card with some money inside is fine, or a gift card is also thoughtful. You dont need to bring a huge gift, but having something to give them is thoughtful. So just get a really thoughtful card and slip some money inside any where from 30-50 dollars is fine.

Answer 7

A monetary gift will be perfect for this particular wedding. try to find out how much a dinner would cost at the location a give that amount and a little extra for drinks even though you are not close with them at least you want to have them break even for what they out out after all they do have 3 children and you did accept the invite.

Answer 8

Oh I definitely would write a check enclosed in a wedding card or an American Express Gift Card which they can use anytime or anywhere. If it is at a restaurant, I would think between $50 to $100 would be wonderful.

Answer 9

I think a gift would be appropriate but should be in the price range that you are comfortable with - You can gift a lot of things for reasonable prices - aromatherapy candles (for a romantic evening), a gift card to a local store for new towels, bed linens,etc., a gift card to a local restaurant for dinner, even a wooden "welcome, the Smith's" for their front door. Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 10

I think I'd bring a gift just as a traditional thing but we usually buy a bottle of liquor, you can never go wrong with the good stuff. Pick something like a good whiskey, tequila, or crown royal you can't go wrong and you won't feel like a cheapskate.