I used to go out with this guy in school. He dumped me for his EX-gf. She was smart, pretty and popular. I'm not a merd but I ain't no beauty queen. Now 4 years later, he has moved into my colony and we bump into each other often. I can't put aside my early feelings for him and he seems to be sincerely sorry. But when I think about how he dumped me (which wasn't pretty-he did it in front of 400 kids and HER) I don't want anything to do with him. I sounds cliched like a movie but please help.
2007-03-09 03:14:37 · 9 answers · asked by moviebuff_1990 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey, right now you can't be sure he has changed; if he wants anything to do with you make him prove it. Be a stealth observer, there are always clues. You have heard the saying "If you love something let it go...," remember why it was let go. Only you know if your self-esteem can handle this boy and his past with you; Follow your intuition.
2007-03-09 03:27:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why go back for a second helping? He dumped you, and in a pretty harsh way. What makes you think it won't happen again?
If I were dropped like that because she found someone else and later the girl came around, I'd be concerned that it could happen again. Who's to say that later one she wouldn't find a different guy and I'd be in the same place again.
When I broke up with someone (and it only happened a couple times), I had enough respect to do it one on one.
I think he is alone (or wants to have you for some side action), and is working on you, while you are alone and for some reason think you can't do better. Work through your emotions and try to see this situation from the outside. I think you'd agree that going back is not the answer.
2007-03-09 11:25:44 · answer #2 · answered by Voice_Of_Reason 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope! Dude dumped you for a better prospect, thinking it would work out. Now that his gamble hasn't paid off, his strategy is to take you back until something else comes along. You are available, and he knows you, that is all. There is no love there.
I would punish him by thinking he has a shot, and never giving an inch to him. Just when he thinks he is getting close, bring up how you were dumped, then let him try to get close to you again (repeat process forever!).
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2007-03-09 11:30:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look it if was 4 yrs ago that could mean he grew up and stop being a jerk and if he does feel sorry then you know he has grown at least hes not pretending like it was ok so i would give him another chance that is if he still wants you
2007-03-09 11:18:15 · answer #4 · answered by KrazySweetie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
female here
ive always been told let the past be the past as long it was abuse n involved.but if your feelings can put aside on what he did then and he stil has feelings for you then by al means doesnt he deserve a 2ndchance?bc you never know you 2 might up married and good luck to you
2007-03-09 11:19:16 · answer #5 · answered by Angie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before u can any sort of relationship even as friends u have to forgive him for dumping u how he did.
2007-03-09 11:18:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy sounds lika dick, i have one of these guys at my job. all u got to do is put him in his place if you have to b an a$$hol3(sorry but yahoo would bleep it out) or go for revenge i did both to the guy at my job and he didnt talk for a week, never a dick again.
2007-03-09 11:27:44 · answer #7 · answered by iNeedHer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don know
sounds like a dirtbag with no leads
2007-03-09 11:17:04 · answer #8 · answered by willow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was young....might still be. but if u wanna give it a go then do it
2007-03-09 11:17:15 · answer #9 · answered by jenivive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋