who takes the bride to her wedding ceromoney at church? Can bride and grrom go to church in the same car?

Question

I am getting married soon to a wonderful man. We are interacial couple. My mother said that I am not suppose to see my groom on the wedding day before the wedding. And she said I am not suppose to go to church with him in the same car. But I am taking with the wedding party at church before the ceromoney. In my culture it's bad luck for the groom to see the bride in her wedding dress before the ceromoney. I think that's just superstition. I am a christian and I don't believe in superstitions. But my mom says I am stubbern and I don't want to listen. She said even American culture follows that. She said infact all cultures follow that. What's the meaning behind it? The point I was trying to make to my mom was if my culture believes that something bad might happen to the groom or bride if they see each other before the wedding then it's silly and superstitious. I wasn't hell bent on getting in my fiance's car and going to church with him. Does everyone follow this tradition?

Answer 1

It is an American custom as well for the groom to not see the bride before the wedding. It is a custom that holds over from when a wedding was simply a trade of "goods" between two families. The bride and groom did not meet until the wedding and the groom would not see the bride until that moment the veil would be lifted.

Many people opt not to follow this rule just as few people follow the rules of an arranged marriage. There are a few differences though between following custom for an arranged marriage and following custom for not seeing the groom.

Imagine on your day, you have spent the whole day with your groom. Now you see him at the church as you walk down the aisle. The climax is gone.

Now imagine on your day, you haven't seen your groom all day long and you are on pins and needles waiting to see him. Finally, you walk down the aisle and see him for the first time all day and in moments will be married. Not much can beat that rush of adrenaline.

Now for the other stuff. Yes, if you take pictures before-hand, you can save a lot of time on the other end that you can then spend with your guests. Financially this may be better as reception halls are expensive, and generally charge by the hour, so you have to pay to have your guests wait around for you. You basically have to decide what is more important.

One more thing... although there are superstitions attached now to not seeing the bride before the wedding, these superstitions are meaningless when compared to the traditions observed by following this (possibly outdated) rule.

Answer 2

Tradition is for the groom not to see the bride before the wedding. More importantly, not see her in the dress beforehand. My first wedding, we had to be there early, and I got dressed in the brides room at the church, and we took a bunch of pictures, and the groom didn't have to be there as early, the didn't take as many "pre" pictures of the guys. That marriage ended in divorce - and we had followed protocol about not seeing each other. So, it probably doesn't matter! lol I believe you were trying to say you're taking pictures before the ceremony with the wedding party, and if this includes the groom, then it doesn't matter if you ride in the same car to the wedding, because he will see you in your dress before the ceremony anyway.

My second wedding (and last one) my now husband and I drove to the wedding together.

Hope this helps. Congrats on your upcoming nuptials.

Answer 3

I think its just a superstition that people made up a long time ago, just like many other superstitions. I think its also tradition not to see the groom before the wedding. I think you should wait and let him be surprised to see you when he sees you walking down the asile. Get your dad or or mother to take you to the ceromoney and have the groom in a different car. So that way he wont see you till you walk down the asile, it will be breath taking for him and be more of a surprise for you too when you see him for the first time waiting for you.
Congrats!!

Answer 4

Well I dont know if everyone follows it but your mother is right. You are not supposed to see,talk to your future husband let alone ride in the same car as him. Have a relative drop you and your party off at the church or rent a limo. You could find one for pretty cheap- just look in the phone book.

It is tradition to not see the spouse before the wedding day or even the night before. You are supposed to go to your mothers or a relative the night before and the next time you see him will be at the wedding when you are getting married!

Answer 5

First of all it is not superstition, it is tradition. I think you should not be in the same car as your fiance going to the church. This is not the proper etiquette. Get another car for you. the person giving you away and the bridal party, and he goes with his best man and ushers and Grooms parents and your Mom. Two limousines are needed. Parents can take their own car to save money. It really doesn't look right for you to come out of the car with your groom, you should be in the car with the person who will give you away like your Dad or another person. I have never seen any bride come out of the limo with her groom, it is just not done. Don't mess with tradition.

Answer 6

In North u . s ., traditionally that is the bride's. that is been that way because the female replaced into continually the middle of the homestead, who might want to confirm the religious upbringing of her children the most. It did no longer have something to do with money. besides the undeniable fact that, as with another issues, human beings many times throw custom out of the marriage. Couples many times settle on because of distance, to illustrate. There are merely distinctive adult males and women those who are not church individuals any extra... and really have a house church.

Answer 7

You should really go in seperate cars. The men get there early to usher the guests to their seats. (Not the groom though) Your groom needs to be waiting at the end of the aisle for you, waiting for you to be given to him. Besides, the look on his face when he watches his beautiful bride walk to him is a look you probably wont see again!!!! (except if you have a baby) There is nothing wrong with a little bit of tradition. I think this country could do good by getting back to the basic little things in life!! Good luck!

Answer 8

its supposed to be bad luck for the groom to see you in your dress before the wedding, so most people will tell you its a no-no... HOWEVER, I am in the state of miind about my wedding that:

1) this is OUR wedding and everything we decide to do or not to do is up to us, completely.
2) Our wedding is not exactly traditional as it is so why not?

You can do anything u like for your wedding... don't think you have to follow tradition just because the tradition exsists. HOWEVER, my take on the issue is that it's really much more romantic for him to see you all dolled up while he waits at the other end of that aisle. usually tears em up ;) hmmm... maybe you could ride together but blindfold him? lol, that could be cute. good luck

Answer 9

It is very bad luck for the groom to see the bride...I am going to be in a seperate location that whole day taking the same limo but at different times to the ceremony and staying in the limo until it is time to walk down the aisle....listen to your mom!

Answer 10

NO. You dont ride with him, you shouldnt see him before you meet him at the altar. Besides, the men usually have to be there about 45 minutes before the ceremony starts, you should arrive about 5 minutes before. You dont want to be hanging out in a church for 45 minutes, your stress levels would be so high you might have a breakdown of some sort.

Go separately, it will be worth it.