what are my rights as a mother to stop any access of my child to his father?or do i have any?

Question

he is not violent but he causes me alot of stress and my baby isnt even born yet!

Answer 1

Unless you can prove him unfit, you have no legal right to keep his child from him. To be frank, just because you don't like him doesn't give you the right to decide for your child he shouldn't be a part of his life; Unless, like I said, he is unfit.

Children need both of their parents. Whether the parent's like each other or not is not the issue. Your child will resent you for keeping their father from them.

My step-daughter's mother tried (and still does try) to keep her away from her father. To this day, she resents her mother for not letting her have the relationship with her father she deserves.

If when your child is older, and decides for themself that they don't want a relationship with their father that should be their decision, not yours.

Answer 2

Your job will be to prove to the court that your husband is dangerous to you and your baby and so you have think, how can you prove that? With documentation.
Document and log EVERYTHING. If does so much as hit you once go to the police and get a police report and take pics of the site of injury. If there are any witnesses to what he does that is good too. Anything he says and does should be logged.

First thing you should do is get in touch with a lawyer, some of them offer free consultation or pro bono (charity) work.

Oh, I just noticed you said he is NOT so you don't have much of a case, all husbands cause wives stress, that's the beauty of marriage, hun.

Seek marriage counseling first.
He is the father, he has a right to see his child and most importantly the CHILD has the right to have a relationship with the father.

Answer 3

I'm assuming he won't be at the birth so he won't be there to sign the Acknowledgment of Paternity. He can always pursue a paternity test and I'm not sure what you could do from there. If it is acknowledged one way or another that he is the father, go to Family Court asap and start filing for custody, child support, etc. You will need to give pretty good reasons why he shouldn't be able to see your baby-they tend to be more "fair" to both parents rather than thinking of the child's best interest. I would like to say also that a bad father is NOT better than no father. I really hate that everyone seems to think that all fathers are good just because it's a male influence. there will be other POSITIVE male influences in your child's life.

Answer 4

This is exactly why women get a bad name when it comes to custody "battles"!!

The baby is as much his as it is yours. You chose to have a baby with this man. Your baby has had no choice in who it's parents are. Think about your baby for goodness sake!!

A child needs both parents - this does not mean you have to have a relationship with him - but simply that your child needs to know where he has come from and who is father is.

If the father wants to have access you have to prove that he is violent or in some other way a danger to your child and I am sure any self respecting solicitor will discourage you from using the fact that he is stressing you out as a good case to have him banned from seeing his child.

I think you need to think about the rights of your child. He/She has a right to know who is parents are and you have NO right to refuse access without GOOD reason.

At the end of the day this is a baby, a person, a living being NOT a pawn or trump card in some perverted game you want to play!

Answer 5

HOPE THIS HELPS

If the parents of a child are married to each other or if they have jointly adopted a child, then they both have parental responsibility. This is not automatically the case for unmarried parents.

Having parental responsibility means that you have the right to make important decisions about your child's life in areas like medical treatment and education. But it also means that you have responsibilities. You have a duty to care for and protect the child.

According to current law, a mother always has parental responsibility for her child. A father, however, has this responsibility only if he is married to the mother or has acquired legal responsibility for his child. Living with the mother, even for a long time, does not automatically give a father parental responsibility. Parental responsibility does not always pass to the natural father if the mother dies and the parents were not married.

Parental responsibility does not mean paying maintenance or child support. The two things are not connected. All birth or adoptive parents have a legal duty to financially support their child, even if they do not have parental responsibility. Nor does it necessarily make a difference if you are applying for contact or residence orders. The courts will always make these orders according to a child's best interest.
How unmarried fathers can get legal responsibility
Unmarried fathers can acquire parental responsibility for their children in several different ways, depending on when their children were born.

For children born before 1 December 2003, unmarried fathers can get parental responsibility by:

marrying the mother of their child or by obtaining a parental responsibility order from the court
registering a parental responsibility agreement with the court or by an application to court
For children born after 1 December 2003, the situation is different. Unmarried fathers can get parental responsibility by:

registering the child's birth jointly with the mother at the time of birth - this is now quite common and many parents choose to do this
re-registering the birth if you are the natural father
marrying the mother of their child or by obtaining a parental responsibility order from the court
registering with the court for parental responsibility
Applying to the courts for parental responsibility
A father can apply to the court to gain parental responsibility. In considering an application from a father, the court will take the following into account:

the degree of commitment shown by the father to his child
the degree of attachment between father and child
the father's reasons for applying for the order
The court will then decide to accept or reject the application based on what it believes is in the child's best interest.

Answer 6

First from a single mothers stand point, do not push him out of your life. Not only will it be better for the child it will be better for you in the long run. Yes he may be stressful right now but even without him its going to be stressful. Don't blame everything on him, this is a 2 way street, especially with your hormones out of whack.
Once the baby gets here you will be grateful you have him around. I did everything on my own, and I'm still doing it, but if i had the chance i would have definetly involved the father of my child. In my case, it was physically impossible. So please take my advice and let him do whatever he is willing to do.

Answer 7

no you don't have a legal or moral right to prevent your child seeing it's father, without a court order. This would come as a result of repeated and reported abuse to yourself. It would be very wrong of you to stop your child seeing it's father. children are not stupid, they are not children long either. The child will grow up to know the truth, and if you do stop them seeing each other, you are harming your child to get back at your ex. This is not a good thing obviously. Plus, as a single mum myself (now my ex was a total idiot) you will appreciate the time to yourself. I have found that if my friends ahve said to their kids dads, 'yuo can see them when ever you want' they don't really bother after a while, but the ones' who try and stop them end up with loads of grief and in court. You don't want all that when you are trying to enjoy your baby.

Answer 8

you hope he doesn't look at yahoo answers, the only way you can stop his rights if he poses a threat to the baby, if he is a molester or something, by the fact you want to stop access before the child is here says a lot about what you are willing to do to deprive your child of a father, not the mindset of a sane woman. you are putting yourself before your child. he may be a fine father but a lousy husband and you would tamper with his access. you don't have a right to stop access. it is his child too. vindictive mothers, they are everywhere, what happened to the nurturing instinct?

Answer 9

if hes a threat to the child then yes! but if not u dont have any grounds, one thing u could do....is get a solicitor n ask to have a molestation order on him, this does not stop him from coming near u or the child but it ensures u that he can not be arguementative or disruptive towards u! u can also inform the courts that u dont want to have any contact with him at all but u still want ur child to know who his/her father is (i say his/her bcoz this is not a 'thing' u can not meddle with this childs life) u can suggest for a social worker to take ur child to his/her father on contact days n stay present through the visit if u do not trust him with the little one!! if u try n stop this child from meeting the father they may start to hate u in later life! everyone needs a 'father' AND 'mother' realationship n no one should ever have that realationship ripped from there hands! afteral u wouldnt like it if u filed for custerdy n lost??? he clearly wants to have a realationship with HIS child, so let him, i bet he'll surprise u n be a great father!! i hope all goes well, n i send soo much luck to u!! take care, of u n ur child, xxx

Answer 10

my brother had his daughter taken away from him by her mother for no proper reason, she said she was takin her to sweeden for 6 months but would have her back in england by september to get her into school this was last year and since then she has not had any contact with my brother, not on his birthday not at xmas not on her birthday. He has not seen his daughter for a year and she was his pride and joy, my whole family had to watch him go through the deepest depression and hear him contemplate suicide, when I get my hands on my neices mother I wont be held responsible for my actions

think about how this will affect everybody in this childs life, not just your child and the father before you do something as drastic as stopping access
that in my honest opionion as a mother and a godmother/auntie is THE most selfish anyone can ever do, it disgusts me