I was dating this guy for five months; when we were talking, i told him that I can't have SEX until I am married. He agreed to be with me and now he is telling me he can't do that. I am a college student and I am trying to get my bachelor so I can help my family. All my sisters got pregnant at age of 18 except me so now he wanted to get addicted to sexual activity until he get me pregnant. He once said once he get to that bad he will get me pregnant. I missed him and I am confused as to what to do.
2007-03-09 03:00:43 · 11 answers · asked by Rudeline C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am very glad to hear that you have made the decision not to have sex until you are married. However, you will meet a lot of guys that will pressure you to change your mind. I urge you strongly to keep to your position and your future husband will treat you like a queen. I admire you for making that decision and hope you will keep to your decision. There are a lot of other fish in the sea so don't worry about the jerk you were dating; just hold on to your standards and you will someone!
2007-03-09 03:06:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You got a little confusing at the end there, but I get the gist of it. It's very admirable of you to want to wait. Your reason for doing so is even more respectable. Please, do not allow *anyone* to force you into making such a big decision. Don't buy into emotional blackmail. Who cares if he threatens to leave if you don't let him bed you. Who cares if he's flaunting the idea of other "willing" participants. If they're so willing, then he's free to go. Just remember: you're choosing to leave, so don't think that after you've had your flings, it'll be ok for you to come back making hypocrital proclamations of love. (Oh, honey, I've missed you so... It was a mistake, my leaving you! I was a child... Please forgive me...)
One of the few things I find *unforgiveable* in life is infidelity. I feel that if the other person has any respect for you and/or your relationship, then s/he should be able to speak up when they decide that something is awry and that they want out.
So, in essence, I just want to implore you to not let this be the situation that ruins your life, because these situations tend to do just that.
Choose well; and good luck!
2007-03-09 03:17:55 · answer #2 · answered by Smurfette 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good for you!! Most women dont' stick to their guns with something like that. If he's not going to respect you enough to wait , then he obviously doesn't care enough about you, your concerns or anything else for that matter. Since this is the case, I'd move on. I've dated men who said they'd wait and to find out within a week their minds had changed; so I broke it off. It didn't honestly bother me that much. I'm one of those that "if you like me, great! if not, that's ok too"...and if the reasons are wrong for me to be with that person; I still break it off.
2007-03-09 03:14:46 · answer #3 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
im sorry but i read this 4 times but the way it is worded at the end makes no sense just dont get pregnant get your bachelor and help your family cuz they were there for you
2007-03-09 03:07:42 · answer #4 · answered by princess 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh my god!!!! Alright that really depend on all much you like him... However if i was you, i might juz end this relationship if my dreams is to get my bachelor coz a good education is important to me more than education...
However if you really like a person, some time are had to be someone that had to give in first... So think twice before actioning... :)
2007-03-09 03:06:33 · answer #5 · answered by yuki 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You have the right to take great pride in making decisions which will not only enable you to control your future, but give you more options to choose a mate who is like you! Stick to your guns, lady!!!
2007-03-09 03:05:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
if u feel so strongly about not haveing sex till u r marrid then dnt compramize your principals just because he cnt handl not haveing sex forget him an fnd sum 1 who respects your wishes
i hope it goes well for ya good luck
2007-03-09 03:05:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go ahead and bang the guy...make him wear a jimmy cap so you dont get knocked up. Or, you could just blow him, or even take it up the chute.
2007-03-09 03:04:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is hard to understand you.
Can't you just go on the pill?
2007-03-09 03:05:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Dont let him force you to do anything you dont want to do.
2007-03-09 03:05:27 · answer #10 · answered by Shantell R 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋