Pls, i have a girlfriend that i love so much, initially when we started our relationship it was fun filling, our sexual life was something to write home about,she seems to want me every now and then, it got to a stage we cant do without each other,i must tell you,we were very much in love,but we have one problem, she takes in every now and then we make love,which has resulted to abortion thrice, and if i should insist on making use of the condom she will bluntly refuse it, telling me she does not like the usage of it, so ever since then, it has been one abortion and there about,so just recently i found out that she no longer enjoys making love to me.
I have to force her to do those things we use to do. At times when i succeeded making love to her she will be unhappy all true. And i dont like that. Pls i need your candid advice! What do i do? How do i bring back the fire in her? pls my relationship is fading out. What do i do?
2007-03-09 02:51:23 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was going through something similar, however I have never been pregnant, but my sexual drive with my boyfriend is fading. I honestly think that you girlfriend needs to go on birth control for starters. And I think that with all the abortions, they have taken a toll on her mentally. I mean even if she didnt want the child just think of the wear and tear abortions take on the body, not only that what it does to her mentally. Shes had to give up a child 3 times. I think before she can become more sexual with you I think she may have to see a psychatrist. Maybe she feels like everytime she has sex theres that chance of her getting pregnant and having to go through yet another abortion. Or maybe the abortions she has left her emotionally exhausted. I suffer from depression and I take medication for it. But before I was diagnosed, I didnt have much of sex drive and I didnt want to do the things I liked best. So I think she may need to see a shrink. To sort out her feelings. Also try being understanding and nurturing. She may seem the same but she likes it.
2007-03-09 03:04:29 · answer #1 · answered by AV S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is probably in depression. Using abortion as a birth control is so wrong in so many ways. It now has affected her deeply. Girls go through so many emotional things after an abortion, that she may not be able to deal with alone. She is probably going through guilt, and "what if's" and she should seek a counsellor that she can sit and talk these things out with. Naturally now she is going to associate sex with sadness and the fear of having to go through it again. Your relationship will be destroyed if she doesn't get some help. If someone doesn't want to use protection, then it's up to u to say forget then, because as u see its not worth it. There are so many methods of protection available today, that there really is no excuse for unwanted pregnancies. Anyhow the damage has been done, and u need to be there for her right now and get her to find help with this and heal, and hopefully get your relationship back on track and make better decisions for your future.
2007-03-09 03:04:59 · answer #2 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmm... first sirt down and have a talk with her ask her why she feels this way, and maybe suggest like getting away once a week somewhere like dinner, movie, etc. or have a pizza and movie night! Relationships don't always have to revolve around sex, getting out once in a while and having fun in different exciting ways can help out the situation also. But as far as sex goes, maybe try pills, toys, diff., positions, etc.
2007-03-09 02:57:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, forcing someone to do something sexually against their will is called sexual assault and it's sick and disgusting. If you really loved her, you would put her needs above your instant gratification.
Secondly, if she is so against using protection, you might want to stop having sex with her, unless you want to be paying child support your entire life.
Sounds like what you really need to do is have a heart to heart talk, and then seriously consider your values.
2007-03-09 03:02:16 · answer #4 · answered by greensong 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your best bet is to talk to her about these things. perhaps the fire is gone from your relationship and you'll need to jump start it. maybe it's run its course and that's all there is. but talk to her and find out how she feels about all of your concerns.
2007-03-09 02:56:00 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this may sound corny but read cosmopolitan magazine it has suggestions that could make you want to go sexually crazy for your girl wanting to try new things and new ways to rouse her sexual animal inside GOOD LUCK AND HAPPY MATING!
2007-03-09 02:58:34 · answer #6 · answered by Big girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it fade away. You should not be killing babies becaus e she does not like a rubber. Find a good woman.
2007-03-09 02:56:04 · answer #7 · answered by mikey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on...she's a loser. Nice to kill two babies. That's not an idea of birth control...murderer.
2007-03-09 03:06:25 · answer #8 · answered by qtpie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is burned out with it.. maybe move on with your life.. who knows?
2007-03-09 02:57:36 · answer #9 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋