Should I report this guy?

Question

I'm a receptionist and at our firm we have a very annoying client who is in his seventies and is one of those dirty-old-man-flirts (I'm 20 by the way). Everytime he comes in, I let his broker know he's here and tell him to have a seat. He never sits. He just stands at my desk staring at me. After a while he'll talk. 1st offense: a dirty joke that I can't remember but was very uncalled for. 2nd :I told him I'd recently quit smoking and he said "oh, honey. If you smoke, I ain't gonna kiss ya!". I wrote it off as a harmless little old man. 3rd: came in Monday but his broker wasn't there. When I told him that, he once again just stood and stared. A few moments later he told me to leave his name/number. I asked his name and he told me I should know it by now. I finally got his name/number and he told me since I got his number, I should give him mine. I know he's just a harmless little old man but it made me uncomfortable. It's annoying, disguting, and uncalled for. Would you report it?

Also, I've had past experiences that don't help my nerves when this guy comes around (stalkers, etc.)

Oh, didn't tell this part either: I told the borker's assistant I didn't like the way he talks to me and she just laughed. The broker told me to be nice to him because he lost his son not long ago. I told him I don't like his uncalled for comments. He gave me that "yeah, whatever" look and said "it'll be ok. Don't worry about it"

For one answer-er: Leaving my job isn't an option. It's lovely besides that one client. And if he were cute and in his 20's it would still be uncalled for and I still wouldn't appreciate it.

For another answer-er: Flirting back is also not an option. I could never bring myself to doing something like that.

Answer 1

Yes!
I've been in a similar situation and you should never have to put up with this type of behavior especially in the work place where you should feel comfortable and safe.
Talk to your supervisor and the broker, let them know you've tried to be respectful and tolerable but its gone too far and he needs to be dealt with. If they don't do something about it go to your HR Dept., go all the way up if you have to but don't continue to deal with it. Just because you are a women and sometimes we get hit on doesn't justify harrassment.
Stand up for yourself and do what is right for you.

Answer 2

You could always leave your job. If you don't appreciate his behavior, kindly inform him that kind of humor isn't appreciated. You really don't have to report him to anyone due to he isn't causing you harm. If that man was in his 20's and behaving the same way, would you be as uncomfortable? You should take in account that the man who comes in there might only come so much because you make his day. Try being a little more kind and polite about not wanting to hear dirty jokes. Thank you and good luck.

Answer 3

Let me just say that I know you are disgusted by this man's behavior and I must admit that he seems to have stepped over the line with you. You have remember though that one day you will be old and I'm sure that this man is just trying to get some kind of attention out of you. He probably feels that in his younger days he was very handsome and women probably fell at his feet and now that he is up in age he is probably feeling that his self confidence is leaving him and he has to be reassured that he still got it. He is probably just flirting with you to see if he can still attract women. I 'm sure that he doesn't mean any harm most elderly men and women I'm sure feels like this guy. So please, try not to take offense to his behavior cause we all are gonna get old one day if the Lord allows it and we will probably feel like this guy does in a sense. Just keep that in mind ok. God Bless

Answer 4

In one simple word yes. It's what it is. Sexual harassment. Report it. He might be old and 70 but he knows what he's doing is wrong. Get some pepper spray too and verbally tell him to back off or else. Also does your work place have security guards male security guards? Have one posted at your desk for a while and hopefully that "horny old fart" will get the picture.

Answer 5

How's this harrasement? It's an old man coming to your company. He is not touching you. He is not asking you for sex. He's a client of your business. Ask the broker what he is like.

Answer 6

Tell him your husband who is a city cop definately wouldn't appreciate a client flirting with his wife...I am sure he would take the hint.

Old guys like that get their kicks off on flirting with gals, they don't see it as offensive,even if it is.

If it really bothers you be blunt with him and tell him if he doesn't knock off his bcrap annoying what he thinks is cute flirting your going to staple his lips shut.

Answer 7

It sounds harmless. You are probably quite pretty and he is just playing. If you keep a cool tone, he will go away soon enough. But try to not let what happened in your past color your future.

Answer 8

not a chick but here's my opinion. guys like that are harmless. if he's really annoying you with it, be up front but polite that you don't appreciate those comments. if you report him, it could create waves at work (unfairly or not) and you could be branded as oversensitive.

Answer 9

First of all, you need to discuss this w/ dirty old man. If he doesn't stop harassing you after you've asked him to stop, then it's time to report him.

Answer 10

ah... dont report him. hes just a guy who is near expiring. u know what i mean? and i guess u work in stock/MF company? then he might have a fat portfolio... perfect equation! old dude near death, fat wealth... u complete the equation! try flirting too! gosh, his thing would not stand! replace his viagra with aspilets! give me an update wont u? hehehe. take it light ms 20.