I’m getting out of a relationship and my best friend is getting out of a relationship, but we both realize that we have feeling for one another that we would like to pursue, but the time is just too soon. My marriage was 4 years and his relationship was 2 years. We decided that it was too soon for both of us and we needed a chance to heal from our past relationships first, lest we doom what could end up being a very wonderful thing for both of us. He was my first love and we were very close when we were younger, until we were forced to part by our families. How long should we wait before we attempt any type of relationship? On average how long would it take for us to be emotionally ready? I know it depends on the person, but just for arguments sake.
2007-03-09 02:33:59 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We both decided that we needed some time, I was the one who actually brought it up. I just don't know if I am capable of seeing him and not falling in love with him.
2007-03-09 02:45:37 · update #1
when you know that you can honestly say that you would not get back with the x if the time was right, if circumstances were different etc. you should probably give it at least 6 months.
2007-03-09 02:42:28 · answer #1 · answered by miss-ee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Healing takes time but it all depends on the person. Some people never get over the loved ones they lost. When I broke up with my ex about 5yrs ago it took me literally 1wk 2 get over him. I had things going for me. I was in college I had great friends & family. Who needs a man? Im find by my self. I geuss it took me 1wk or so b/c he was a total asshole and I was the one who broke it off. Maybe if it were the other way it would of taken longer.
My advice: Hang in there. Talk to your friends and family about it. Go out. Do something fun. Life is to short 2 sit home dreading and crying over this *****/asshole who left you. Their loss not yours. Theres more fish in the sea...not that you desperately need 2 be attached.
2007-03-09 02:40:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's different depending on who needs to "get over it"...and how long one was with the other partner. Most mentally stable people, from a few months to a year. However, i've known a few who STILL aren't over it...and it's been 8 years! But i wouldn't call them "mentally stable" either.
2007-03-09 02:39:41 · answer #3 · answered by bradxschuman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go for it. I mean if you guys really care for each other i don't think it should matter and you guys can be there for each other to help each other forget them and see what great and better people you could have from your relationship ending
2007-03-09 02:40:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The secret is just don't get that attached to anyone so it wont take that long to get over them. GOOD LUCK Unlucky in love
2007-03-09 02:40:49 · answer #5 · answered by firebirdstevev 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just start slow and go out once or twice a week to a movie or dinner and see what happens.
2007-03-09 02:38:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋