So we are 16 and have been dating for 4 1/2 months now. He has continuosly said that he loves me, and that he loves me more. We used to spend so much time together, but now, a lot of the time when he says he'll call he doesnt, he doesnt like to kiss, and he rather go play around outside than snuggle. He has never been a very sexual guy in the first place, I mean he has fingered me, etc, we dont want sex yet though, but is he losing interest, or does he just need space? I ask him alot if he still loves me, and I know i shouldnt because that can get annoying, and i should stop, but I also have major depression and i am very paranoid that he will stop liking me. Am i overreacting?
Also, on the phone, recently sometimes when i say "bye, i love you" he says"ok, bye"
Im so worried, please help!
(I love him sooo much)
2007-03-09 02:24:32 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ive talked to him about this, but i dont want to talk about it all the time because i think its a part of my paranoia and i dot want to get on his nerves.
2007-03-09 02:28:53 · update #1
I know you love him...but you guys are so young still...you have to give him some space for sure, hes feeling suffocated right now. Just let him be for awhile and maybe you will enjoy some time with your friends also...if it is meant to be longterm he will surely come back with open arms...trust me and good luck!!!
2007-03-09 02:34:05 · answer #1 · answered by Shanni1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a grip and stop worrying so much. If he loves you then he'll continue spending time with you and such. But also his actions will speak louder then his words. He should start holding your hands more, hugging and kissing you and such. If not then he's just interested in you as a friend and he's "using" you for your companionship. In your heart you'll know if it's over or not. I think you should dump him first and then move on. Cuz it sounds to me like he's either seeing some one else or he's not quite to grips with reality and he feels that you're not the girl for him any more only he's not got the guts to tell you and break up. So beat him to it. Sorry but I'm just looking at all the possibilities here.
2007-03-09 02:31:57 · answer #2 · answered by dave_83501 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you believe in god the father the son and the holy spirit? if you do then great if you don't you should give God a try and get into the word of God ( the bible) because when you believe, you know that if no one else ever says i love you God has already said it when he gave his son for us to have another chance at having a relationship with Him. My dear all you need is the Lord not some immature boy who doesn't know what true love is to begin with. Love yourself first and you won't have to have these doubts; pondering whether or not someone else loves you.
may God bless you and continue to keep you , for i
know that the Lord is blessing you right now.
2007-03-09 02:36:01 · answer #3 · answered by miss-ee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm... maybe he is really gay or something... guys at that age dont know what love is anyways really... remember girls are a lot more mature then guys, so really when you are 16 you are thinking like a 20 year old, and when he is 16 he is thinking like a 14 year old, just remember that for life and you will be ok. dont be depressed over this, THERE are SOOO many guys and ones that would die for you. so if he doesnt love you, anotehr one worthy of you will.
2007-03-09 02:29:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're way too young to be having these kind of problems. You shouldn't be all that sexual yet. Go out with plenty of boys but don't get into all the sex stuff yet as that will just complicate your life.
2007-03-09 02:29:24 · answer #5 · answered by CL R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try just backing off for a while. Guys at that age like the chase, they don't like to be chased. Don't tell him you love him anymore, unless he says it first. Wait for him to call you, don't call him.
If this doesn't work, then I'm sorry, maybe it's time for the relationship to end and find someone who IS willing to have fun with you.
2007-03-09 02:29:41 · answer #6 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's loosing interest in you. Maybe he like someone else. Ask him do he want to still be with you. Tell him that you love him more than he love you now,because you will never treat him the way he treat you.
2007-03-09 02:42:11 · answer #7 · answered by Ms.Single 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 17:14:39 · answer #8 · answered by sebring 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that he feel that he needs his space sometimes. One day just ask him what can bring spark to the relationship or do he feel that the relationship is falling apart. Just take it day by day and just talk to him more than just expecting him to do what you think couples suppose to do. If you love him, then stay with him and try to work things out.
2007-03-09 02:35:02 · answer #9 · answered by - -Ladii TK- - 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. But if I was in your place, I would probably confront him immediately about what he's doing and stuff so we can clear things as earlier as now. It's hard to get hurt. Goodluck. Talk to him. And just prepare yourself on what's going to happen and what he's going to say. Take care.
2007-03-09 02:35:08 · answer #10 · answered by Faye ^___^ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋