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I'm 19 going on 20 and have had the worst luck in this area. You name it, it's most likely happened. I don't like to say if I'm good looking or anything like that because that's in the eye of the beholder. I'll just say that I get enough attention. Is it really that pathetic or am I just reading too much into it or whatever? I could blame my somewhat shyness, but I'm not as bad with that as I used to be. It's just really getting me down and making me feel like if it doesn't happen in the forseeable future then I should forget it.

2007-03-09 02:15:50 · 17 answers · asked by GoneForGood 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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2007-03-09 02:27:34 · answer #1 · answered by traveller 7 · 3 0

It's not pathetic. Popular media makes it sound like you have to have X amount of girlfriends and be a stud in bed by the time you are twenty..that's not true.

It's good to have experience though, so that you learn what you like and don't like in a partner. Perhaps you haven't had any dates or relationships because you don't put yourself out there. Even if you don't think someone is "the one," ask them out anyways. It'll help.

Also, the more depressed and negative you feel about it, the less and less people you will attract. You'll actually omit a negative energy that will turn peopl away. So, my suggestion is to be yourself, have fun, take things as they come, and before you know it somehing will happen for you.

2007-03-09 10:26:04 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa 6 · 1 0

Lots of people, for one reason or another, don't begin having relationships until their twenties. You are putting to much emphasis on it and that causes unneeded stress. The real question is have to asked anyone out ever? First, decide what kind of girl you want to meant. The library or local coffee shop is a great place to meet girls, especially if you live near a college. Try approaching one and starting a conversation. Do not use a cheesy line. Just be natural and talk to her. Don't forget to listen to her (it is the most important thing). If you try, you will succeed.

2007-03-09 10:27:25 · answer #3 · answered by fly guy 4 · 0 0

I am a girl. 20 and just got my first boyfriend. I used to be like you, feeling bad for myself. I am shy too. Break out of your shyness a little but it is who you are so dont change completely. My boyfriend I think is out of my league and never would have thought I'd get someone like him after being single up until recently. Dont get yourself down. I bet you are a great guy. If you see a girl who interests you, get her number. When you arnt looking, you will find a girlfriend.

2007-03-09 10:22:01 · answer #4 · answered by annonymus 1 · 0 0

Quit beating yourself up. You are probably just a late bloomer. As you said you are getting over your shyness now and that is the big thing you have to do. Remember, if you ask a girl to go out and she says no, there are plenty of other fish in the sea.

2007-03-09 10:23:35 · answer #5 · answered by don n 6 · 0 0

Of course it's not pathetic! First of all, if you've been focused on other things (ie school, work, family etc) then when would you have had time to go out and find a girlfriend? Also, it's much better to have a sense of who you are, your goals in life, etc BEFORE dating, because then you make a much better boyfriend. You're more adult/ mature and better able to relate to people.

2007-03-09 10:27:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I don't think it's pathetic at all. When I was a teenager, I dated just to date, and that was pathetic. To me it means you have your head on straight, and you don't need a girlfriend to define who you are. Believe me, in the end, you'll be glad it didn't happen until the perfect girl came along. Keep being your sweet self, and the right girl will find you.

2007-03-09 10:25:15 · answer #7 · answered by Moon 3 · 0 0

It's not pathetic at all. But, shyness will keep you from meeting women. That's something you have to overcome. You just have to remind yourself that you don't care what others think about you. Part of shyness is insecurity. Once you quit carring what others are thinking, you find yourself getting more open and bold. I'm not talking about NOT caring at ALL, just don't care what strangers are thinking.

2007-03-09 10:20:09 · answer #8 · answered by Groovy 6 · 0 0

don't worry i barely got my first boyfreind last year when i was 15. but still i think im really pretty it's just the guys that asked me i didn't really like i was just patient and my first boyfreind was great. Don't give up if you can't find anybody to ask somebody we'll surey find you someday!! o0o yea and it does not make you pathetic i mean you kissed a girl before right??

2007-03-09 10:22:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

It is not pathetic. Alot of people don't start dating until well into their 20s. The right person will come along. Don't beat yourself up over it.

2007-03-09 10:19:44 · answer #10 · answered by angie a 3 · 0 0

there is someone out there for everyone andjust because u havent had a g/f doesnt make u less of a man or less actractive you will meether someday and when youdo she'll be the one for you dont rush it the more you rush the harder it will get let her come to u

2007-03-09 10:24:48 · answer #11 · answered by shyshy 2 · 0 0

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