I'v been going out with my girldfriend for 6 months now. Nothing serious to me but to her its completely serious. She even wants to have a baby with me. Recently iv felt that we have been growing apart. But to her im everything, she cries when i leave her and i havent done anything with my friends in forever. I really want to end it but she's so fragile. And to make it worse she cuts. I'v seen her do it just because i left for a couple of hours. Please help. I feel like this relationship has taken its course and i want to see other people but i dont want my current girlfriend to get hurt.
2007-03-09 01:52:41 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is no way you can break up with someone that is that serious about you and it not hurt. You just have to be honest about it. That is all you can do. By all means do not take the coward's way out. It only makes it worse.
2007-03-09 01:57:03 · answer #1 · answered by Jen_n_TX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any break up hurts, no matter how civil the end is! Someone is going to be upset, it's inevitable! However, you can ease the hurt some by the way you do it! You need to sit down and have a chat with her. Let her know how deeply concerned you are for her safety, but that you can't be her safety net any longer. It isn't fair to you to bear that responsibility! She is not your responsibility to save!
It may help if you have one of her close friends or family members there for the conversation, or at least available for after you have left! If she has hurt herself in the past, then it may help her to have someone else there. At the very least, it may stop her from doing anything stupid. However, I say again, she is NOT YOUR RESPONSIBILITY TO SAVE!
You are responsible for your life and yours alone. You should not stay with someone simply because you are scared to leave them alone. Years down the road, if you stay, then you both will end up miserable because you aren't happy.
Talk to her, tell her your concerns, and be honest, but be sincere! If you want to still try to be friends, tell her that. But, if you don't want to, then DON'T tell her that you can still be friends, because when she tries to be that friend, it will cause more tension and pain!
Good luck and try to be as kind as you can, but be firm. If you are too nice, she may be misled into thinking that there is still a chance!
Good luck!
2007-03-09 10:06:51 · answer #2 · answered by jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She does need professional help, but you also need to refrain from being intimate with her if she wants a baby that badly. Don't allow her to trap you into fatherhood. If she's cutting herself, she'd be a risk to a child anyway. I'm not sure how old you are (or she is) but perhaps talk to someone in her family so that they are aware of her depression and can get her some help. You'll have to be gentle but firm when telling her that you cannot go on like that, and that her behavior is destructive. I'm sure she has her good points, don't forget those. Best of luck to you.
2007-03-09 10:02:24 · answer #3 · answered by pokecheckme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to help her get help before you break up with her. Does her parents know what she's doing to herself? Maybe you should talk to them or a close friends about her self-mutilation. But you must be honest with your feelings, and that's the best way to break up with this person. Hopefully she has a good support group that will help her through the break up.
2007-03-09 11:21:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well theres no way to end it with her if you dont' want her to get hurt bcuz either way shes going to. but if you try to explain it to her. that your not happy etc. if she cuts herself over you just leaving her for a few hours i say she might need some help but don't let it drag on for 6 more months then you really won't be able to break up with her
2007-03-09 10:03:24 · answer #5 · answered by Tricia P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend has a problem and so do you! She needs psychriatic help and you should discuss this with her parents or some close relative. Then you will need counselling on how to get out of this relationship! Try to help her get help.
2007-03-09 10:06:03 · answer #6 · answered by prettywoman_eks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand how ur girlfriend feels cos i am also in a situation like yours but this time round is because my bf is a married man and that he has ****** some other gals behind my back but i still really love him and din want him to leave me. He has been saying that he has no time for me which i feel i am just being treated like dirt by him. I dunno how to maintain my own relationship too
2007-03-09 10:08:31 · answer #7 · answered by akimoto_emi05 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to her maybe she is paranoid about something that she is hiding, or maybe she is just lonely and so in love with you that she can't let go!! When it comes down to this you should consider choosing your actions because it is up to you!! : )
2007-03-09 09:59:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to get some medical help. Tell her parents what is going on and see if they can get the attention that she needs. Don't get yourself wrapped up with psychos anymore.
2007-03-09 09:57:14 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
im sorry about ur gf!! but i would come out and explain to her why your breaking up with her or tell her somethings that need to change if your gonna stay together!
~*Good Luck*~
2007-03-09 10:30:22 · answer #10 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋