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who regularly looks nice at work and makes an effort but the trouble is whenever i or anyone else tries to give her a compliment she just bats its away and wont except it and says dont be silly! Why do you think this is and how can i get her to accept a compliment gracefully?

2007-03-09 01:52:16 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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She probably really thinks she looks a mess most of the time so when people compliment her she feels embarrassed and cant believe they are actually being serious when she looks in the mirror and see a big mess!!! Try not paying her any complements in the future she obviously doesn't appreciate them!!Save your flattery for some one who enjoys the attention --- coz this girl obviously doesnt!!! x

2007-03-09 01:59:21 · answer #1 · answered by jo 4 · 0 2

Sometimes that is something that you have to learn with time and maturity. Some people just don't know how to take a compliment gracefully. I have a friend very much like this. Recently she has lost a LOT of weight and looks FANTASTIC! We were at a mutual friend's wedding last week where I was the maid of honour. I hugged her and told her wonderful she looked and congratulated her (about 3 times) and each time she turned it right back around to me and said "OMG YOU look so beautiful!" She simply would not acknowledge the compliment.

Keep complimenting her though. She likes it even though she doesn't know how to accept it. The next time she does that say "The proper response is Thank You." and then laugh. She will realize that she is not being very gracious.

2007-03-09 09:58:41 · answer #2 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 1 0

If she's really attractive then maybe she's self conscious of that and she has a hard time accepting complements. Or maybe she's an average girl but still looks really good when she tries too and she's got low self esteem that makes it hard for her to accept compliments. I don't know there. Just be her friend and well some times there are ways of saying kind things and complimenting some one without words but through deeds, gifts and things like that. Think about that maybe get with some of your work crew and buy her some thing special. Some thing that says what you've been saying but some thing you know she'll like and cherish for a life time. That will speak volumes. Try it.

2007-03-09 09:57:38 · answer #3 · answered by dave_83501 4 · 0 0

She really does appreciate what you are saying !! , but feels embarrassed ..I would bet she was a shy person (at sometime) ....she doesn't know how to properly respond without sounding conceited or what words to use..she will get used to it but the best thing you can do for her when she starts batting it away say.... (her name) and tell her to just says thanks...or joke with her about it..she does not want to be this way so help her out ...

2007-03-09 09:59:47 · answer #4 · answered by connie b 6 · 1 0

I used to be that way myself. I think it is a lack of self esteem. I finally was told that it is important to receive as well as give so I shaped up and simply say thank you now.

2007-03-09 09:56:50 · answer #5 · answered by ladynamedjane 5 · 1 0

it may not be a low self-esteem problem. I'm learning how to say "thank you" myself. When people say something nice about me I think they want something from me. I'm not sure why that is.
Or I think they don't really mean it; they are trying to make me feel good about myself.

2007-03-09 10:07:43 · answer #6 · answered by aa 2 · 1 0

Perhaps she has a hard time accepting compliment, for she may not think much of herself.

2007-03-09 09:56:56 · answer #7 · answered by Kimora Miranda 3 · 1 0

She may have self esteem issues or could just be playing hard to get. She may not even know that she looks that nice.

2007-03-09 09:55:21 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda 4 · 2 0

It's either one of two:

1) she knows she looks good, and want to hear some more of it.

2) she has selfesteem - confidence issues.

Just tell her one day that she looks good and if she repeats don't be silly tell her that you are not, and you meant it. give her the honest look and go to your desk.

2007-03-09 09:57:21 · answer #9 · answered by peachy 4 · 2 0

it is the way she says her self. Make she does not see what everyone else is seeing. or she does not what to be vain.

Talk to her.

2007-03-09 09:56:48 · answer #10 · answered by Plus Size Panther! 3 · 1 0

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