2007-03-09 01:46:06 · 22 answers · asked by katrinasfather 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I would hope that you would wait until after you are married to get pregnant. Especially if it is a planned pregnancy.
2007-03-09 02:07:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
If it's important to you, supposing you have the choice, then yes, get married first. If you are (or a friend is) pregnant already, getting married before baby is born can simplify a lot of things, notably child support orders and taxes, for both parents.
If you/they were planning to be married before a baby, and then a pregnancy happened, moving the timetable up isn't a bad thing. And how do you know how big mommy's gonna get? Maybe the dress wouldn't be all that big anyways. Most wedding dresses are huge anyways, at least the full skirts, so it really doesn't detract from it, I think. If the bride is expecting, anyone making judgements about that is merely being petty.
Do what makes you happy, is my advice. If there is no more chance of 'before...', I'd recommend getting married before the baby is born. If you elope and/or do a small civil ceremony, you can always do up a proper 'grand' ceremony after baby is born, there's nothing wrong with that either. Concentrating on what makes the involved parties happiest is more important than deciding what the community thinks 'should' happen.
A wedding is a public celebration of your dedication to each other as a couple, makes little difference if you've technically been married for a while, and people ought not resent it or complain if you're doing a public ceremony after having wedded elsewhen, plenty of people get re-married for lots of reasons. I attended a wedding like that, not because she was pregnant, but because her mother was in poor health, and they thought she might not make it to the big ceremony. She did make it, happily, but I think it was lovely that they got married before, just to make sure the mom could be there.
2007-03-09 02:39:27 · answer #2 · answered by ற¢ԲèişŦվ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would probably be easier to get married before you get pregnant. Not only will you have some issues with the dress fitting correctly, you will also be under a lot of stress while planning your wedding and that's not good for the baby. If you are already pregnant you could always wait until the baby is born before getting married. But it's your choice. Plenty of women have babies before they get married - or get married while pregnant. It happens.
2007-03-09 01:52:44 · answer #3 · answered by lakee_4 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am 6 months pregnant and due in june. I have ordered my dress a couple sizes up so I can have it altered before the wedding in October. Either way its up to you. And I think nanny is rude because she left me the same comment stateing how I diden't deserve a formal dress as well because I had child before the wedding some people on here can be pretty mean so I think you should do whatever feels right for you.
2007-03-09 06:48:36 · answer #4 · answered by Tracy.W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My fiance and I want a baby asap. We're getting married in June and are trying to plan having a baby in December or January ...those of you who are counting months know that is only 6 or 7 months....yes we're hoping to be newly pregnant by the wedding. I won't be showing enough that my dress won't fit. If you know that this is the man your going to spend the rest of you life with and you know your getting married (meaning you're engaged) why not start trying to get pregnant before the wedding - if things go the way you want them to you might have the makings for a really great speech and toast at the wedding. My fiance and I hope to announce our pregnancy at our wedding reception.
Good luck to you!
2007-03-09 06:29:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes you should definetly get married before getting pregnant, If you have the option to, definetly go that route, if you are not pregnant when you get married just get a dress in your size, no need to go "outsized"....or do you mean get married before the baby comes and you already are? I still say get married before baby comes if you are in a good stable relationship that will be healthy for the child, then just do something simple and get a dress that will fit in the near future...
2007-03-09 02:46:20 · answer #6 · answered by ASH 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Personally i would get married first, i have a son and i'm not married now but i wouldnt want to be pregnant on my wedding day especially not hugely pregnant like kerry katona was on her wedding to mark i just think it doesnt look right.
2007-03-09 01:51:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes get married before getting pregnant... you'll have a better time finding a wedding dress....
2007-03-09 01:58:30 · answer #8 · answered by Jbaby 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you are planning on getting married anyway, I would get married first. My fiance and I are pregnant and are getting married one month before our baby is due. I don't mind being pregnant on my wedding day, because we are not having a huge ceremony. It's really up to you. There is really no need to get married before your baby is born. It's pretty common now days for woman to have children before marriage. We would have waited until after the baby was born, but I didn't feel like filling out a bunch of paperwork, just so he wouldn't have to pay child support. My cousin and his fiance had to do this. It was a big pain in the butt.
2007-03-09 02:00:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
I have no idea what an 'outsize wedding dress' is, but YES!!!
Please get married first...it will save a lot of pain, heartache and trouble for the future.
2007-03-09 01:54:11 · answer #10 · answered by emay02 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Really the choice is yours. Could write realms about morals, welfare of a baby leading up to marriage, in fact 100's of fors and against but only you can decide.
2007-03-09 09:56:13 · answer #11 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋