What can I tell her?

Question

My sister,s wedding is next weekend, but yesterday, I found out that there is a woman who is six months pregnant with his fiancee child. The woman is trying to beg my sis fiancee, to cancell the wedding until after the birth of the child and then they can continue with the ceremony, i dont want break my sis heart at this point what should i tell her?

Answer 1

I would tell her finace that he has 12 hours to talk to your sister about the situation or you will tell her yourself.

That way you are giving him a fair chance and trying not to stick your nose in.

I would not "tattle" but tell your sister that you have heard information that may be hurtful and that she needs to talk to her finace regarding a "rumor" you heard. Do not pass judgement. If it were just a one-night stand or even an affair I'd stay quiet, but since there is a child involved this could affect your sister greatly and she needs to know.

But ultimately what they decide you should support.

Answer 2

You sister has no idea of the baby? Are you sure it is his? I would tell her. I think if she found out later that you knew and didn't say anything she might be upset. Marriage is for life and if there was something pre-wedding that might cause a divorce later I'd want to know now. If this lady is pregnant does that mean that he cheated on your sister? Looks like there is a lot involved that she has the right to know about. What she does with the information after that is her decision. Hope it all works out!!

Answer 3

If your sister dosnet know about the baby than your going to have to talk to her fiance and tell him that you know about this baby and that your giving him the chance to tell your sister or you will. It will be best to hear it from him than you. If he doesnt tell her within a week than your going to have to go to your mother about this and get your sister to sit down and talk to her about what is going on. Having your mother there will help back you up and give your sister more support. But I am sure the groom will tell her before you do. Just make sure to tell him that he needs to tell your sister by the weekend or you will.

Answer 4

I think this is one of the ones where you cant sit back and keep your mouth shut.

I would go to him first and tell him what you know. Tell him that you think it should be him that tells your sister, but that if he doesnt that you will be telling her.

But yes, she needs to know, I would never marry a man who got another girl pregnant, and obviously he did this while he was with your sister, so that also adds the cheating mark to him as well. What an f'ing creep.

Answer 5

unfortunately...although it will hurt her...she needs to know the truth before the wedding...then she can decide whether or not she wants to continue with the relationship. Good luck...it will not be easy for you.

Answer 6

As many people before me said, it is a very difficult thing to tell your sister... but I would defiantly tell her before the wedding... cause if she finds out that you knew before hand she may get mad at you...

Answer 7

I think you should tell her. She deserves to know the truth about the guy she is marrying and she would be hurt worse if you didn't tell her and she found out you knew.

Answer 8

That is a tough question. A tough position to be in also. I think your sister deserves the truth though.

Answer 9

Just tell her the truth. Remember: it is better to break your sis heart and then mend it, to not to tell her and to see how miserable her life is.

Answer 10

this is heartbreaking news, but your sister deserves to know the truth about the man she's marrying before she goes through with it. then she can decide from there what she wants to do about it.