I am helping with the food bill(she never buys anything to eat for her own house), have bought a fridge and am making my kids help with the cleaning while I look for a place to stay. I came at her invitation. I wanted to return to the city where we live from someplace else. Now she's snapping at me, purposely ignoring me and acting like her landlord not repairing things is my fault. But she won't pick up the phone and call him.
2007-03-09 01:40:56 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It sounds like your lifestyle is too different from your friend's and she is now beginning to feel her comforts being infringed upon. It seems as though she is a low maintenance person with not a lot of structure, and maybe the structure you're attempting to establish is stressful to her. It could be that she is content with the condition of those unrepaired things, and it's you that is irritating her with complaints of broken items around the house. In any case, it would appear that your best bet is to relocate, since there appears to be a conflict between your lifestyles, which probably will not be resolved regardless of your attempts at verbal resolution.
2007-03-09 03:26:39 · answer #1 · answered by Andrea M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if you can talk to her for a minute. Tell her that you know that its a tight living situation and that you are trying to get a place of your own, ask her in the meantime if there anything that you can do to help her get the landlord to fix her things(this will let her know thats its the landlords fault, not yours). If she continues to be rude, come out and say, I appreciate so much you INVITING us to stay here, but have I done anything to offend you because you seem annoyed with me. And let her know you do not want this situation to ruin your friendship. If she continues to be rude, bide your time, keep your mouth shut, then when you get your place, get your stuff together, (make sure you have everyhthing thats yours), walk out the door and tell her to kiss your ***. There is only so much a person can take, favor or not. Good Luck
2007-03-09 09:58:48 · answer #2 · answered by 3boys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone needs a little time to themselves - especially in their own house. Make it a point to skedattle every now and then to provide her with this courtesy. Also, take the initiative to sweetly Thank her for helping you get away from the "someplace else." Let her know that you appreciate her.
2007-03-09 11:04:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, she is being rude on purpose. She is sublimenally saying that you overstayed your welcome. It's sad but nowadays alot of people do not know how to express their feelings. Now with the nuisances in her household and never getting a hold of the landlord has nothing to do with you. She should really grateful that you and your children are helping her. You must remember though some people are just unappreciative. Best of luck with you and your friendship!!!!!!
2007-03-09 10:03:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe having you and your kids in her home is more stressful than she imagined and she's having trouble coping and it's coming out as rudeness. She invited you, yes, but likely thought having you stay for awhile would be a breeze, but it's more than she can deal with. True enough, that's not really your fault, BUT........ the only way I can see to deal with her is to sit and talk, and reassure her you'll find a place ASAP, and mean it.
2007-03-09 09:47:44 · answer #5 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
kind of sounds like she's had enough company. she probably doesn't want to say anything for fear of hurting your feelings but little does she know, she's doing just that. time to move on. i'm sure you're doing your best to be helpful while you're there but you need to find your own place.
2007-03-09 09:50:44 · answer #6 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋