I read somewhere that once you've entered the "Friend Zone", you're chances of being with that woman becomes less and less. What do you all think?
2007-03-09 01:38:30 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For the girls, if a good friend of yours suddenly drops the "big" confession on you, could you still trust that person?
2007-03-09 01:43:22 · update #1
nope, i would rather be friends with benefits than go out with the girl
2007-03-09 01:40:47 · answer #1 · answered by pancho 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that being friends first is a good thing. You can really get to know the person on another level. Alot of times when you start dating someone the attraction is physical and you may overlook the fact that you don't have a strong intellectual or emotional connection. As friends the pressure of the physical isn't there so you can end up learning alot about the person. Alot of my past boyfriends started out as friends so I don't buy the "Friend Zone" thing.
If a guy friend were to drop the confession on me I would still trust him but it might make things a little awkward right after.
2007-03-09 09:48:09 · answer #2 · answered by Vivita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that being friends first is a bad idea. I know first hand, when I was in high school my best friend was a guy, I dated one of his friends and he dated one of my friend we really got to know each other just being friends. then after school we ended up getting together and dated we have the best relationship we are now married and have a daughter and are still like newly weds going on our third year. So my best advice is get to know your friend and if you still think that you want to more out of this relationship go ahead and let them know your true feelings and maybe you will have a happy ending too. Goodluck!
2007-03-09 10:00:21 · answer #3 · answered by tamber w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to date 'outside the group', I agree with the ideas of the 'Friend Zone' from experience. What i think is that, girls don't want to lose you as a friend if you end up breaking up.
2007-03-09 09:47:10 · answer #4 · answered by hellopanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the person matters. I have been friends with a guy for 15 years, but he is gay so sex is not an option. the friend zone is good because you really get to know someone before you have to feel worried about having sex in the dark.
2007-03-09 09:43:22 · answer #5 · answered by lilred25smc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Negatory! You're taking the right Road. Friends don't hurt Friends. There's gonna be a great deal of trust, as it gets better. Stay the Course. Good choice.
2007-03-09 09:43:06 · answer #6 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever you read is not true at all. it's actually the opposite. love always blooms from friendship. friendship is always the base of love. you can't love someone until you become friends with them first.
as for the "big" confession, it really depends on what the confession is. if it's something really bad, then i might lose my respect for her. but if it's just a really big secret, nothing bad or illegal, i would be happy she trusts me enough to tell me something that big.
2007-03-09 09:46:54 · answer #7 · answered by heartiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think that being friends first is the only way to go about a relationship.
It's important for me that I feel safe and respected and valued not for my appearance or our chemistry....I think it's essential that two people get to know each other before desire gets in the way. Because romance clouds your thinking....let's face it, it just does. It rounds square edges, adds sparkle to their teeth, allure to their scent....it fuzzes you a little. So, if you are friends first, that only makes desire real and true. It can be based on deeper things.
For me, my best friend and I began just as pals....and about a year in, we realized that we were the only person on each other's minds...suddenly, he became incredibly attractive...it was like I was seeing this man with brand new eyes, and vice versa...and it was incredible, because here was my friend, and he makes me crazy!
2007-03-09 11:11:07 · answer #8 · answered by Constellation 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how long you have been friends with a person. One of the best relationships I have ever had was with a guy that we started out as just friends. It didn't work out but it helped that I already knew him and had alot of trust in him.
2007-03-09 09:42:15 · answer #9 · answered by Jen_n_TX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the friendship.I was friends with my husband for a couple years before we started dating, but we had some sexual chemistry all along, we just weren't ready for a relationship.
I was friends with other guys too and one of them wanted to take it to the next level and it was like kissing my brother, so it didn't go anywhere. There was no spark for me. There never was, but he was a nice guy and I thought I could make it work, but if there's no spark there's no spark and you can't force it.
2007-03-09 09:50:41 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a bittersweet idea. either you have an aqwesome relationship because you know tat person from friendship. you try dating and it bombs and you lose a friend. Or you get to watch her date other guys while she asks you for advice..
how to pick up chicks...
1 pretend like you don't care
2 be a dick kinda... don't be too offensive or harsh
3 play guitar
4 get a ticket counter and tell the ladies to take a number and wait their turn. haha
2007-03-09 09:57:31 · answer #11 · answered by dh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋