My girlfriend just lost her father last week and ever since, she has been really distant. She doesn't want to talk to me, and she is not affectionate at all. I can understand the affection part, but she doesn't talk to me. I want her to know I'm there for her. I'm afraid this is going to be permanant, and it's going to drive a wedge between us. What can I do?
2007-03-09 01:25:30 · 8 answers · asked by traemarlow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
People grieve in different ways. Maybe this is hers. She will talk to you when she is ready. Just be there and be supportive, trust me, she knows you are there.
2007-03-09 01:30:23 · answer #1 · answered by stefanisky 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Give her some time but always tell her that you are there. Don't offer advise unless she asks and check up on her everyday. Don't smother her. Death is so hard to deal with, she is lucky to have someone who cares about her that wants to help her through it. She may not be affectionate because she may be afraid that she will break down if she is held. She may just have put up a wall around her so she doesn't have to deal with the pain. She may not be ready to deal with it yet, it takes a while sometimes.
2007-03-09 09:32:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give her at least another week or two. Don't pressure her - her feelings are probably a mess right now. You might want to suggest some grief counselling for her if possible. There are also lots of great support groups on the internet. Good luck!
2007-03-09 09:29:57 · answer #3 · answered by searching_please 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a space, but send her positive little notes and little beautiful flowers (like yellow, pink,) in an envelope to her address. Tell her you don't want to be a burden to her, since she is in so much pain, that you love her and you'll be there for her whenever she needs you. Tell her 'im' there for you, and would love to help you, but i don't know if i should give you your space. Please let's communicate'.
2007-03-09 09:29:55 · answer #4 · answered by Spark S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find some way to break the ice. Find a special memory you and her share and revisit tthe place and then nonchalauntly bring up the top buy asking her hows shes doing and stuff...
2007-03-09 09:29:31 · answer #5 · answered by kitsune_rose_chan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to give her some time to grieve. She will come around when she's ready. Just be there for her when she needs you.
2007-03-09 09:30:11 · answer #6 · answered by mrskittycat76 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What she has been through is very traumatic, give her some time, she'll come around.
2007-03-09 09:28:00 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. M 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
by opening up to her and trusting eachother
2007-03-09 09:27:35 · answer #8 · answered by John Becker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋