i like two people at the same time, im dating one of them and was going out with the other, i know what one i should be with and he's a really decent bloke but i miss the other one i cant choose, i dont wanna hurt anyone but in the end i know its me who's going to loose out in the end. need advice its all i can think about.
2007-03-09 01:24:24 · 18 answers · asked by SHY1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You answered your own question. Choose or be the loser. You are doing nothing but cozing your self stress and anxiety. Right now its in your hands, give it alittle time and you will have no choice.
2007-03-09 01:28:39 · answer #1 · answered by txO3blueeyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without commitments to ether you are actually doing nothing wrong. Unless you have told one you are not seeing anyone else then the list of things wrong is endless. If there has been no verbal or even implied commitment how do you know they aren't seeing other women? This should be a time for you to have fun in your life. Lose the worry and anxiety. If you think it will help you let each of them know you like them very much and will continue to see other people. Let them decide. The strength in any relationship or friendship is honesty. You will find people are alot more understanding than you think. If they are not, it is a level of maturity they will need to deal with.
2007-03-09 09:37:56 · answer #2 · answered by Ray2play 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you'd better give yourself some time to sort this out. In time you will get to know these two guys much better. The one that cares about what you like and want and is a loving person all the way around would be the one that I would be interested in. Remember looks are only skin deep! Picking someone who is "hot"is fine, but you may not receive what you really need in that person. Go for what is in their heart and in your heart. Crushes don't last with someone or good looks. Hope this answers your questions. Cocoa
2007-03-09 09:36:40 · answer #3 · answered by cocoa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's be honest here: It's not so much about hurting one or both of them; it's about you wanting to have one for a serious relationship and one to play with. You want to have your cake and eat it too. So I'm going to be blunt here: When it comes right down to it, you only really care about yourself. You're behaving like a spoiled child. Grow up. You wouldn't tolerate that type of behavior from the man in your life, so the same rules apply to you here. You can only have ONE so be an adult and choose, then once you make your choice live with the consequences. If you don't decide, or if you try to make it work so you can be with both of them, then you deserve to have both of them kick you to the curb, which is exactly what they will do if you try to play them. Just make a decision.
2007-03-09 09:35:32 · answer #4 · answered by sarge927 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to choose. And quickly too before your potential one finds out about the other one........
This isn't not going to be easy, but then life never is. Don't fall in this mess. Get this done as soon as possible. You are right. If things remain inactive for too long, you may end up being the loser.
2007-03-09 09:28:23 · answer #5 · answered by A.S.I. - 7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This exact same thing happened to Satan on SouthPark. In the end, he decided that he needed some time alone to get to know himself better and that he would be ok by himself.
I don't know if that would apply to you, but I'd choose the 'decent bloke' and move on. :) You can do it! :) Good luck!
2007-03-09 09:28:05 · answer #6 · answered by searching_please 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must be a good reason that u see one of them better than the other!!! so go with your heart, and each time you remember the other guy just look at the one you chose and look for what you miss in him.
2007-03-09 09:33:55 · answer #7 · answered by Mountain Wolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear, you are already in a relationship with this new guy. why do you want to jeopardize the relationship for something that might or might not work out. You already left that old guy, why put yourself in a situation where the chances of getting no are 50% if not higher?
Love the guy you are with now and forget about the old one.
2007-03-09 09:30:40 · answer #8 · answered by peachy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe the old song goes something like this:
'Torn between two lovers, feeling like a fool; loving them both is breaking all the rules'
Sit down for a weekend alone, and seriously analyse how you honestly feel about both of them. Talk to each one separately, sort out each one's feelings for you, make your choice, and don't ever do this again!
2007-03-09 09:28:48 · answer #9 · answered by Icewomanblockstheshot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy it as much as it lasts.
YOu may loose them both some point, and that will be a heart broken! so take your steps carefully. Keep the one that is good hearted, you can train him how to make real love to you.
but you cannot train the good sex one, to be a great man to your heart.
GL (good luck)
2007-03-09 09:27:37 · answer #10 · answered by Spark S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋