I am a Christian girl and I want my man to be man enough to ask me out- not me ask him..But I feel like I will stay single all my life and it freaks me out. I want a loving husband and family. I get depressed and feel my life has no future...What can I do..
2007-03-09 01:24:09 · 5 answers · asked by country gal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hey... I don't know how old ya are... but I'm in the same situation... I'm Christian, 23 and no guys have ever asked me out... what ya have to realise is that we need to project ourselves more so that guys see we're available.... easier said than done (obviously or I would have a boyfriend by now). I know in my head what I need to do to seem more confident, and that often gets mowed down by my inherent fear of the unknown and scary... but I have improved over the years and now am much more confident mixing with guys and that's a start... make great guy friends and that will put you in a position that when a guy does like you, he won't feel intimidated coz you have other guy friends you mix with.
I know the feeling about being worried you will be a spinster all your life... in fact my best friend and I have a joke that if we don't get boyfriends/husbands then one day we will move in together and be old ladies who have hundreds of budgies (coz I'm allergic to cats...hee hee)!!! However even in my feeling sorry for myself moments I know that God has someone for me out there and even when it sucks seeing friends with someone and getting married, I know that when it does happen its going to be amazing... and in my mind that's worth waiting for... also be more open-minded about guys, don't close off any potential relationships by focusing on one guy who probably is just a crush... the right guy may be in full view and you can't see it. Also it can be a bonus to see all your friends make mistakes and to be able to learn from them, so that when you do get into a relationship you don't make those mistakes or are at least aware of them.
As Christians we can support each other in waiting for the right Godly guy and I hope that you can take my words to heart... coz being young and christian and trying to stick to those values can be hard, but remember its totally worth it... depression is not worth the worry (hee hee), but I have down days and it really helps to see the bigger picture of our eternal salvation.
P.S if this is bronwyn... Ha!!!!!!!!
2007-03-09 01:54:04 · answer #1 · answered by tarzanatvw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First , put in your mind , that sometimes circumstances happen and for some weird reazons nobody has had the "chance" to talk to you about that , dont hurry those things or youll end up being considered cheap , but use...smart attitude , let those you like know youre awesome , with true friendship ,a smile that shows something else (just a little bit), but dont invite them to play only ... or youll get hurted in your feelings , talk about that with them ... -- do you have girlfriend?---it always brings out the same question back __you have bf?---so..if one men knows youre available ...some more will...the news will spread ....... being Christian means you have high values , use them too .
2007-03-09 09:32:50 · answer #2 · answered by robertman30s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen sometimes you must compromise so take the first step and just because yo do does not mean that he isn't man enough also you may to beautiful to approach they think you either have someone already or that you would not want them
2007-03-09 09:28:25 · answer #3 · answered by dianashay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? The whole world is open and waiting for you to make your move. Go for it!
2007-03-09 09:28:20 · answer #4 · answered by rilindy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
juss give it time if it takes too long juss go after urs meaning do waht u gotta do to make u happy
2007-03-09 09:28:42 · answer #5 · answered by jazzmyn b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋