Any teen parents who are still together?

Question

Is it possible to last long with your bf or gf,and your pregnant?Im 19 and Im pregnant,My bf and I love each other very much and we are thinking of gettin married now,can our relationship last? I mena we are young and WE do want to get married its our decision.but can it last?

We been together for 1 and a half. and our relationship is really strong!

Answer 1

Only you can answer that..is your relationship strong?

Answer 2

ANy relationship can last if you're willing to put in the effort. The problem I hear almost 100% is that couples never had a chance to experience life. I know couples who have been married for many years right out of high school but are rarely happy. Couples who do seem to remain happy continue progressing in life, (school, activities etc). Statistcally teenage marriages also fail 100% of the time. Control the things you can control and don't sweat the stuff you can't. Money will likely be an issue as it is in most cases but as long as you're both doing your best son't take it out on each other. Continue to have dates (alone) even after the arrival of the child. A happy couple will be happy parents which helps with a happy relationship. Good luck.

Answer 3

Be careful - whomever answers "YES" is the exception to the rule, no matter how many people answer your question. These are anecdotal reports. Of course there are numerous examples of teenagers marrying and having long happy married lives, just as there are many examples of 30- somethings getting married and divorced within months.
In neither case do the exceptions explain the majority of cases.

You have to make decisions based upon your own case, tempered with the reality of teen marriages. How will you finish school? Will you have money? Where will you live? Will you go to college? Children? Thereality is most teens don't think about anything except "their love". Love is great, but it can falter and then reality comes crashing down on them.


So from what I've seen and read: wait. If it's true love, it'll remain striong and marry when you have the finances and education and maturity to deal with all the other BS you'll encounter in the real world.

Answer 4

It really depends on how determined you both are. I had my daughter when I was 16 and 5 years later my boyfriend and I are still together. So I am living proof that it can work. I was determined that I wouldn't live up to the sterotype that people always assume. (Another teen pregnant with a dead beat baby's father) Don't worry about what other people have to say, and just live your life with you, your soon to be baby, and your boyfriend. BUT don't stay with him just becuase you THINK it's right. Beleive me you will be happier in the long run if you make the decision for YOU.

Hope I helped at least a little.

Answer 5

I'm 20 years old now and my parents had me when my mom was 21 and my dad was 19.. They are still married. It's not going to be easy though. You really should be able to handle yourselves financially before you bring a kid into this world that you have to support financially as well. Although it's a bit late for that. Sorry but I speak negatively due to my own experiances. My young parents made a lot of mistakes early on and I grew up very poor. Credit cards are evil :(

Answer 6

i got my now wife, pregnant at 17, she had the baby right after she turned 18, and i was 21,then we got married... i managed to find a really good job, well not well paying at first, but now, i am financially very stable.. well, stable enough for her to stay home, we had a son also three years ago, we have been together for 6 years now, and we have our rough times, but we love eachother more than anything, and love our family.. we both were big on family when it happend and ended our party ways and behavior and turned it into work ethic and relationship values. i hope we remain together forever and as far as i know, she feels the same way. i think as long as you both value your family... ... and you end your childhood behavior ways... any relationship can last... i suggest getting premarital counseling so you both know your on the same page and dont run into a dead end with nowhere to turn but divorce when you are married.. best of luck. and if you both TRULY love eachother, you will want your family to remain anything but broken up. again, best of luck.

Answer 7

i got married at 19. and didn't have a child until i was 22. and have been married for 13 years. there were alot of trials and tribulations, bumps along the way, we did a lot of growing together and now i think we have finally settled and got to know each other. just don't let the little things get in the way. money! bills! never fight about that. you will never have enough money and bills will always be there!!

Answer 8

my son is 24 his girlfriend is 22, they have been together for 8 years, and still are, they have a 6 year old daughter, and living together about almost a year now. they do have their up and downs just like any other relationship does, but they work it out. they plan to get married as soon as they are stable and my future daughter in law graduates from college, my son works at the hospital, and going for his paramedic. all he is waiting to take the state exam this month. but any relationship that you are in, that you work at together at it, and don't even think about if its going to work, everyone takes risks. if you two want to get married I say go for it. it will work out. . like I said. work out your problems when they come, and have trust, and communicate your marriage will last. but you have to want to get married and don't get married because your pregnant. wait a couple of years and see how your relationship goes but it has to be up to you and no one else, we can all tell you what we think but we can't tell you what to do, it has to be your decision. good luck.

Answer 9

Well, my sister and her husband were both 19 when they got married. She was three month pregnant.
They were married 25 years, and had 3 more children.
All the best to you - - if you love and are commited to each other - it can work.
It's just not an easy way to start.

Answer 10

I am 25 now and have been with my Husband since i was 15 we had our first child when i was 18 got married at 20 and are happy .Good luck and congratulations on your baby.

Answer 11

i am still with my girlfriend who got pregnant! she got pregnant at 17 years old and i was 18. we got married and i join the military! we are now in the prosess of geting out of the military. i will be with this woman for the rest of my life and without a doubt i know she feels the same way. 5 years and still going strong!