I started seeing this guy a month ago and for the first two weeks things were really really intense and he seemed really interested.. in terms of texting taking me out... meeting up etc.. he said the best things to me...
Things all got a bit insense and so we decided to calm things down a bit... that was a mutual decision as we were both scared as we had got really close...
now he hardly texts, i feel like I am chasing him and even though I do see him, its once a week and although he seems interested its very different..
should i bother?? is he really bothered?
2007-03-09 01:20:24 · 11 answers · asked by Lola* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if he looks at your boobs when he talks to you then he is interested.
2007-03-09 01:23:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow you are really in a tight spot.
This is what I would do.
I would text or call or even wait for this guy friend to come over and the both of you need to sit down and compare with each other what you both feel about each other.
Yeah I bet it was fun at first and it was also a good idea to the both of you to calm things down, but know things are moving slower than a snail.
You need to sit down and tell him what you feel and you need to find out what he feels and if they match trying going out in public and see if things grow again like they did when you both started talking.
Don't be afraid of taking the leap towards love because I believe that there is love here and you should chase it while it is still within reach.
Good Luck
2007-03-09 01:31:57 · answer #2 · answered by turtlepowered350 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi! I have been through a similar experience. Things get really intense so that one or both say, let's put the brakes on! Then what happens? That same inertia doesn't stop there, we needed someone or something to cool off. It is the precise moment when I started to see someone else who probably wasn't having second thoughts. What happened in the end? I started dating the second girl, dumping the first one. Badly done, I don't know. We are in continous search of happiness, new experiences, support, love, fun,etc.
If you feel really attracted to a guy or have that special feeling for someone, don't stop yourself, it could be a wonderful experience. Of course we need to be wise and read between the lines what is really going on. Enjoy out there, be yourself, but take care.
2007-03-09 01:45:57 · answer #3 · answered by Bright 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one reason or another hes cooled off and it's doubtful he will give you any answers. Guys do this, sometimes they just wanna see if they can get you, they have no intention of going through with a proper relationship. Are you young? Go for someone over 30, they are a bit more mature. Don't bother with this one, he isn't worth it. I don't mean to upset you but I'd rather be honest with you. Go out with your girlfriends and let them do the running.
2007-03-09 02:02:00 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you decided to cool it down a little, maybe now he's worried that he'll push u away if he starts texting etc more reguarly again, maybe he's worried that you'll think he's not respected what you'd said about taking it bit slower. Maybe talk to him about your worries if you feel you can. Tell him your worried about coming on too strong but your concerned about how he feels - just dont come across too needy or clingy! Good luck, its bit tricky x
2007-03-09 01:41:28 · answer #5 · answered by keeley 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you two mutually decided to slow things down, maybe that is just what he is doing. Don't chase him, if he is truly interested he will pursue you. Don't jump to conclusions, just let see how things go.
2007-03-09 01:32:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If in the cooling of period you find that this happens, you could
do one of two things try to re-ignite it by doing something different
or alternatively find out why he only sees you once a week, is it
a time thing involving his job, is he seeing someone else as well......
Also ask him, do you want a relationship because sometimes the
cooling off means it is over instead, ask the question.............................
THE next time you see him, and he will tell you, men can be a little
shy about who they are, and this can influence how the relationship
is progressing......................................................................................................
2007-03-09 01:29:33 · answer #7 · answered by gorglin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think maybe he is resisting ever since you had that conversation to slow things down... did yu specify how slow things had to go??? talk with him and see whats going on in his mind
2007-03-09 01:30:47 · answer #8 · answered by girl_next_door_red 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't chase him leave it if he wants to see you let him chase you then you know how he really feels don't sit and wait for this guy life's too short move on good luck .................
2007-03-09 01:25:32 · answer #9 · answered by skye 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-09 01:42:20 · answer #10 · answered by sweetguy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋