I don't know what to do?

Question

My son was diagnosed with ADD.He has a negative comment every minute about something.He swears all the time,non stop about nothing major.He is almost 16.I know he has some issues with anger but he doesn't want to help us help him.Any suggestions,Please,I am worried for his future.

He is in counselling,we tried several over last 2 years.Not helping much.

Answer 1

I am a mom myself raising not just one but four teenagers. Yes, four...ages 14, 15, 17, 18. There is never a dull moment. The youngest is in all types of counseling and has been placed on pins prevention program. A teenagers mind is here and now. If that makes any sense. See a teenager does not worry about yesterday, today or future. They only worry about that instant. I did not make the rules that is just a teenagers way of thinking. The way me and my companion handle them are to stick to our guns. For instance, we have posted rules that they all have to follow along with the consequences for violating that specific rule. Lets say swaering is not allowed, the consequence for it is no computer for that day or night. If they did not do a chore the consequence is to do the one they did not do plus the one they have to do for that night. Dirty clothes found in bedrooms the consequence is not outside for that day or night. If a steady consequence is put forth and rules are always enforced then it makes them accountable for thier own actions. You will be surprised how easy it gets once it is enforced and followed through. I do also understand ADD my oldest was diagnosed HAD(hyper activity disorder). Stick to your guns. If medication is needed still enforce rules and do not give up. They will mature and out grow the terrible teenage years. Good Luck!! LL.

Answer 2

My baby brother (now 23) went through this. He was diagnosed w/ ADD as a child and always took medication for it. In his younger days he had a problem w/ fighting. As the years went by, that stopped but he started getting in trouble for other things (nothing MAJOR but it always seemed to be something). When he was a sophomore in high school my parents had enough and decided to switch his school (to a town 15 minutes away). My dad even rented a house in the town and stayed there one night a week, so that he could still "live" in the school district and be able to play sports. This change was like a miracle, I swear. He had new friends.. a new start. He is a completely different person now, all b/c of one small change. I'm not sure if this is an option for you but I just wanted to share this story b/c your son reminded me of my brother at that age.

Answer 3

it doesn't matter what he says. he's 16 and your son. find him a counselor he can relate to. if you wait it will only get worse. odds are, he doesn't want to feel this way but doesn't know how to express his feelings. it's a good bet he'll be resistant to counseling at first but given time he'll probably like the one on one time with someone he can talk to. i've been this route. his anger is displaced and he doesn't know where to put it. get him the help he needs. parents can't do it all. it's our job to find someone who can do what we can't.
edit-read your new comment. is he on meds? has the counselor given you and him strategies to help him? sounds like a little tough love may be needed. it will be harder on you than on him but it could help. ask his dr. to help you make out a rules/consiquence chart. the hardest thing is sticking to it. it's exausting for a parent.it's worth a try if you haven't done that already. does he have a good male influence in his life? i used to let my son stay with my dad for a few days. it was a nice break for both uf us and my dad could talk to him in a wat that i coudn't. i hope all works out for you and your son.

Answer 4

Don't give him a choice about getting help - I would get him into counselling as soon as possible.

Answer 5

get him on a full body cleanse, and get in touch with dr, richard becker, your child can be add free.