I'm 26 and very rarely approached by men. I have been told that I'm cute and dress well. I am intelligent and have a sense of humor. Also a big sports fan. Usually when I'm out with friends I am having a good time so its not like I am acting like a b****. What is going on? I don't have a problem approaching them. Its just nice to have them come to you sometimes. I don't have a problem with being single. I'm not desperate. Its just sometimes I would like to have someone instead of the same disappointments.
2007-03-09 01:11:11 · 12 answers · asked by Jen_n_TX 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe your not putting yourself out enough... guys are different these days.
2007-03-09 01:14:22 · answer #1 · answered by Amber 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you must be living in the wrong neighborhood. Beautiful, funny, women get approached all the time. Don't EVER let yourself blame yourself - that will only hurt your own self esteem. Don't worry play it cool, I personally cannot resist strong women who voice their thoughts and are honest. Ofcourse coming from the crowd of guys you hang with it doesn't seem like they like those kind of women - they might even get intimidated by them. But hey, don't change yourself to appeal more to guys. BE true to yourself. It seems like the guys you hang around are a bunch of wussies, and are not the confident, funny, and charming men you need. Maybe you need to take the first step (if you find a worthy guy). I know... some guys just don't "get it" no matter how many goddamn clues you drop. I feel your pain lady, there are too many beautiful talented women out there without enough guys. I cant be everywhere at once so I cant help you ;)
You don't need advice - you need a nice guy to come along
P.S: Try online dating I have heard some success stories, and have you ever tried speed dating?? I know it sounds corny, but atleast you get to meet new people personally though i dont really respect the guys who do speed dating but whatever, whatever works for you ... good luck !!
G playa
2007-03-09 09:27:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is, be yourself and love who you are. Insecurities sometimes get in our way. Maybe your trying to hard to find that special person when your out. Relax and enjoy the company your with and you may find that others will be at -racked to you because your having a great time. Giving off positive vibes is very important to people around you. Be friendly and kind and helpful to those who might need it. No one likes to have a conversation with someone who is always talking about themselves. " It's not always about you"! I'm not saying that is what your doing, but if it is change your ways. Hope this helps, just remember to be around the right kind of good people. Cocoa
2007-03-09 09:26:22 · answer #3 · answered by cocoa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It migth be the way you present yourself. Guys like something...easy. And it seems to me you have a bit too much self respect to be letting it all hang out. Which I personally think is a good thing. So, when you are in public places, guys are not approaching you because there is a bimbo a few feet away they know they can get there way with. Thats all. it is nothing you did wrong.
2007-03-09 09:16:41 · answer #4 · answered by Linka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Given all the describtion of yourself, I think men are sort of afraid to be turned down if they approach you. So they prefer that you approach them.
Dress well, but it doesn't have to be something fancy. be casual, but don't lose the elegance.
Start the conversations, but don't ask a guy out or something. wait up for him to do so.
You sound like a great girl. Good luck.
2007-03-09 09:16:32 · answer #5 · answered by peachy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a reason that would make guys intimidated? Are you trying to be approachable? Give some signals to encourage them, smile when they look at you. Guys can be very shy, they might be afraid to risk getting their ego bruised. They may not feel worthy to talk to a pretty girl, you may have to help them.
2007-03-09 09:16:52 · answer #6 · answered by Maria b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe u look so damn sophisticated, only a few guy hav the heart to go for a really intelligent girl most guy do not like competition coz most then are dumb lol. That is simple it means u hav not just a guy that is sure of himself
2007-03-09 09:18:26 · answer #7 · answered by ayothony007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really sure how to answer this. Your profile says you like to work out, so maybe you are fit and in shape. You seem fairly intelligent as you can put your words together. What do you look like, you don't have a 360 page.?
2007-03-09 09:18:31 · answer #8 · answered by rilindy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're doing all the right things. Sometimes it just doesn't happen and you have to do a bit to encourage a response. It's called flirting.
2007-03-09 09:17:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you seem so normal to me.. maybe the guys around you are awestruck and hypnotised by your presence.. do you know most men are intimidated by a woman who is very attractive because they might get rejected.
2007-03-09 09:19:09 · answer #10 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MEN ARE SHY BOO IF I WAS TO SEE U AT A BAR AND U LOOKING GOOD I WOULD BE SHY AND WOULD TAKE MY TIME TO COME OVER AND TALK TO U BUT I WOULD BE FLIRTING WITH MY EYES WITH U.
2007-03-09 09:17:50 · answer #11 · answered by junior 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋