I met a great guy online we have been talking everyday for the past 4 months. He wants to come and visit me which is fine but I'm kindof scared too because he's made comments about he hopes that he's attracted to me in person. Mind you he has like 70 + photos of me, alot which were taking last year ( I was addicted to myspace that's why I have so many photos), no photo is old. I just feel like we spend so much time talking and getting to know each other that I was hoping he was getting to like me for me. Even though I do look like all of my photos I still feel inscure when he says things like that, or when he aks me what does my butt look like is it round or flat. Last night he made these comments and I was completely turned off, well not exactly but I am ready to give him the boot, b/c I know how I am and the whole time we meet the only thing on my mind would be I hope he likes me, I hope accepts me. I'm just afraid of being rejected. should I give him the boot or am I overreacting?
2007-03-09 01:09:51 · 13 answers · asked by beautyfulmisteri 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
God, it's hard enough to scrape up the courage to meet someone you already like when the person constantly reassures you they adore you. He's a jackass. You can do better.
2007-03-09 01:13:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would definitely be turned off if someone said that to me. Tough call, meeting in real life is different than talking over the internet or even on the phone. You are probably overreacting slightly, I would at least meet him, he has the right to those uncertainty's but sharing them with you doesn't seem fair.
Instead of concentrating on whether or not he likes you, make sure you take notes as to whether or not you like him. Good luck, whatever you decide to do.
2007-03-09 09:23:17 · answer #2 · answered by Justaguyinaplace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The boot, the whole boot, and nothing but the boot!! He should not be making comments about your butt or any other body part, unless your online conversations have led him to think this is exceptable. Why would you want to waste your time meeting someone when you already have these reservations? Start looking in the real world, honey!! The boot.....a sharp pointed boot....a cowboy boot...a combat boot....the Boot!!
2007-03-09 09:16:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are overreacting. He is wondering the same will you like him. Remember, there are some people who lie and send either someone Else pic or sends a pic of what they looked like 5 yrs ago. I would meet in a public place for coffee and see where it goes from there.
2007-03-09 09:21:47 · answer #4 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are red flags going up all around you!!! You need to break all ties with this guy. A real gentleman would not be asking you such questions about your anatomy. You have to be very careful when on line with men. It sounds as though this man has only "one" thing on his mind, because he shouldn't be concerned about hoping to be attracted to you in person. Do yourself a big favor & ignore any future e-mails/IM's, etc. Go with your gut feelings, they rarely steer you wrong. You should try to find someone who is from your area.
2007-03-09 09:20:57 · answer #5 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to your gut - if you feel the heeby-jeebies at all about this guy - give him the boot. better to have spent 4 mos talking to a loser than be assaulted by a sick-o
be very careful
2007-03-09 09:15:44 · answer #6 · answered by island3girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, you seem to be overreacting. Just meet him in person, then make a decision. Good luck
2007-03-09 09:14:49 · answer #7 · answered by Solar Ball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would follow what your heart tells you, and if you are uneasy with it, just tell him you just want to be friends on the internet, that you are not comfortable with the Idea of him coming to meet you yet. hopefully he will understand, but you have to be 100 percent sure that you do want to meet him, and if you have any doubt you are just not ready yet. good luck.
2007-03-09 09:16:39 · answer #8 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey get to know me bc i am a pretty nice guy n will take ya anywhere ya wanna go on a date n also i have a pretty nice car also
2007-03-09 09:14:37 · answer #9 · answered by Grififn F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well since he has over 70+ pics of u ..n still talking to u obviously u looks pretty attractive to him ..i know its easy to say that ...i totally understand wut ya feeling coz im in the same situation as u r !!!!! ....but i guess its normal to feel nervous ...look at his pic n think of his bad bits haha if that helps !!! ...i guess if u two can really click once u meet up u wont be nervous anymore !!!! ...
is it possible for u to update me (email me) abt the first date u two r having ? ...cos im nervous abt mine as well ..thou its gonna be like 3 mths later ...ehehe thanks
2007-03-09 09:18:54 · answer #10 · answered by Cassie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋