Do you miss?

Question

Do you miss being pregnant? Do you miss being able to feel your baby kick ? Do you miss all the stuff you did before you had your baby and the day you had him or her?


Well im trying to figure out why im feeling so depressed and why I want to be pregnant again so bad. I keep telling myself that is crazy and I can't have another baby right now. Well I did have a baby last june now he is 9 months old and since its getting to be the time of year were I use to remember being pregnant the most im feeling really sad. I did have post pardom depression but do i still have it you think?

Well my question is have you felt the same way a year after you had your baby? Or is the depression coming back?
Please no rude comments thank you

Answer 1

I suffered post pardom depression also. It sounds, from this question, that you may still be suffering from it. Mine lasted until my son was around 10-12 months old but I, honestly, believe mine stemmed from the weight gain that I had put on during my pregnancy. I couldn't get motivated to loose it, b/c of the depression, so that just made it worse.
I don't really miss being pregnant, only the feeling the baby kick part. I had a very hard pregnancy- preeclampsia- so I think if it weren't for that I would have enjoyed it more. I'm to the point now to where I want another one (we just started trying, our son is 2) but I just want to get the pregnancy part of it OVER with. I don't miss my pre-mommy life, being a mom is the best thing that ever happened to me and the reason I was put here on earth.

Answer 2

You may still have a bit of the post partem, but I think it's normal. I have 5 sons and I still miss being pregnant. I loved the feeling that there was a baby growing inside me, the movements, the whole thing. It is magical and a feeling that only women will ever know and feel, and that is why we can start to bond from the first day of conception and the guys don't. I had my tubes tied after my last son all most 3 years ago, but I think about it often and if I ever meet a good guy, I might think about tubel ligation. I loved being pregnant and other women don't. I think it's a great feeling and do miss it, but I don't get depressed over it, I just love to think about it.

Answer 3

I have a 20 month old and a 2 month old. I too miss being able to feel the baby kick inside. That's just a feeling that I absolutely loved! I really do think that alot of mothers go through some form of this "depression" or longing. I think that its normal. If you are concerned then just ask your Dr. I did!

Answer 4

My daughter will be two next month, I lie down with my hands on my belly still wanting to feel her move...that's the only thing about being pregnant that I miss, and I do think this is normal. If it makes you feel better to ask a doctor your questions, then go ahead, but I think that it;s normal to miss being pregnant, after all, it was a huge momentous thing...of course you want to keep a hold of how you felt and want to recreate it.

I don't think that you are depressed per se, I just think that you are missing something fantastic, and it is okay to get a bit weepy about it, I do!
I think that everything about motherhood is great but there is such high emotion attached to everything that it's okay for you to fell 'down' every now and then.

Also, I don't know if you have just recently stopped breastfeeding, but that can make you feel sad as well, because whilst you are breastfeeding, you produce one of the 'feel-good' hormones, I think it's oxytocin- when it leaves your system, it can leave you feeling a little flat.

Relax. You haven't described anything that a million mothers wouldn't lay claim to feeling at some point.

If you want someone to talk to, email me, it might help you to talk to someone :)

Good luck, sweetie, and hope you have fun with your little one, all the fun is going to start now!

Answer 5

I miss it. I had my tubes tied after my twins were born 3 years ago. At the time it seemed like a good idea. I had a very scary delivery with #2 and then went on to carry twins. I let fear and family pressure talk me into it. Now I regret it. I always felt sort of sad that I wouldn't have another child. I really wanted another boy (we have 1 boy and 3 girls) and I thought the feeling would go away, but it didn't. I think its worse now really. I get a knot in my stomach when I hear about friends who are pregnant and when I see newborns. Sucks. We're thinking of adoption or reversal right now.

Answer 6

My son is 27 months now, and I still occassionally feel a bout of melancholy about how fast he's growing. Three years ago, he was living in my stomach and so small I was wearing my usual clothing. Now, it sometimes feels like I blinked and he got so big :P It's normal to feel a tinge of sadness that your little one is growing up and away from you, but I don't think it's normal to feel it to the point where you can describe it as depressed.

I would strongly suggest mentioning it to your doctor. You can't fully enjoy the wonder that is your son NOW if you are continually wishing for then.

Good luck!

Answer 7

It sounds like the depression is back. I would go and see the doctor. I think every woman misses being pregnant sometimes. I have 3 kids and then got a tubal and I still wonder what if...

Answer 8

i hate long answers from people but in this serious case i had to go long...sorry.....
oh dear God YES!
i thought i was the only one that felt that way.....see,i got pregnant with my 1st child on my honeymoon so evrything went so fast that i didnt have time to settle in and enjoy it.....the doctors said i could have no more but praise God seven years later(Gods perfect number)i got pregnant w/my 2nd.....it was the best nine months of my entire life.i loved life at its fullest...i finally after being heavy set all my life,didnt mind being "big".....i loved every milisecond....but THEN!
after i had him i was so so very depressed......and just like you there was the postpardom but it was so much more....the joy ...the meer joy of harvesting that baby inside.....i totally understand you and guess what.....it is sometimes more than a doctor can even understand.....all i can say is that we just have to TRY and let go of it and try not to waste the time we have with our babies NOW because i found out that while i was in the corner crying while my baby laughed and tryed to roll over ,months later i cried that he wasnt that little helpless baby anymore.....so my point to you sweetie is for us to straighten our backs....wipe away the tears.....and get ready for the new ones!
as our children grow we will appreciate the present and not the pass so much more and we will also grow even wiser and begin to appreciate the future so much more than the past AND present!love your baby....praise God your babies not on a milk carton while someone carelessly eats their bowl of cereal....thank God your babies not labled with down syndrome or paralyed from the neck dwn...oh sweetheart,i found out,on my own NOT with a doctor that there is SO much 2be thankful for and that first nine months was only the 1st chapter......enjoy the middle of the book because neither of us know when it will end............
i'll remember u always and say a prayer 4 u each and everyday.................
take care of u and that baby!

Answer 9

I had it too. It's real.

Honey, I feel that way sometimes. Your support from the people that love you is all you have. I have felt so low before because of PP. Find the joy (somehow) from your baby or deep down inside. I wish you all the luck in the world. Please write back if you need more support. Good luck.

Answer 10

yes i do all teh time, plus i work in an OB clinic so i see pregnant women all the time, makes me feel like i want to get pregnant again just to walk around with the belly, and to feel the baby move. that feeling is so great.