I just started dating this new guy and he asked me if I was dating someone other than him. I told him yes and I have been dating the other guy for about a month. Do you think that was a bad Idea?
He is a cool guy and I wanted to be honest. Do you think that shows a guy that you are not really looking for a serious relationship and you just want to have "friends"?
2007-03-09 00:54:37 · 11 answers · asked by Doubtful Debbie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You had to be honest, you were put on the spot. I wouldn't volunteer that info, but he did ask. It shows that you are looking for a serious relationship, but not putting all your eggs in one basket so to speak. I would make it clear with him that if things got serious between you two, you would obviously end dating the other guy. Dating is jsut that. Dating!
2007-03-09 00:57:57 · answer #1 · answered by wickeddanibella26 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that "casual" dating is perfectly fine, esp. if the casual dater is up front about it.
Too often these days, I think that when you tell someone that you are "dating" someone or "seeing" someone, then that means that it is an exclusive relationship when it doesn't have to be.
Dating or seeing someone does NOT have to mean automatically that you are sleeping with that person(s) or are promiscuous. It could just be that you and another guy went out bc you wanted to hang, wanted to go bowling, maybe wanted to make out a bit after the movie. This is not a "committment", it's not a crime, it's not unreasonable.
So, definitely talk to him and explain YOUR meaning of "dating" vs. serious dating, etc. You need to be on the same page here--esp. if you're concerned that you're not or if you think that this might be the guy you DO want to "go steady" with.
Good luck.
2007-03-09 01:03:53 · answer #2 · answered by answerme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing...he asked and you were honest. Also, yes, I do think it shows a guy that you're not after a serious relationship....nothing wrong in that, either.
2007-03-09 01:03:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He asked, you answered honestly. Hensty is best, cause he would have found out anyway. Tell him you want to see him for about, say, 3 months or so and if you think you want to get serious then you will date exclusively.
2007-03-09 01:08:09 · answer #4 · answered by megan261980 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you should definitely be honest, because without that, theres no loyalty and no respect... with out those, you have no trust, and what is a relationship with out trust....? nothing. if he doesn't like the idea, then maybe hes looking for a serious relationship, instead of just friends w/ benefits...
2007-03-09 01:01:47 · answer #5 · answered by uirrid 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is always the best policy! It's better that u are upfront and honest with the guy than lying to him. It shows that you are checking your options, not ready to settle down!
2007-03-09 00:59:52 · answer #6 · answered by Newmomofone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you did right by being honest. You are just dating, now if one were your bf then that would be wrong.
2007-03-09 00:59:11 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a good thing that you are being honest with him.It is never a good thing to lead someone on.Be honest and let him know that you are just playing the field..
2007-03-09 01:06:39 · answer #8 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I respect you for being honest like that. You definately dodged alot of bullets right there. But right now you need to choose which guy you want, or it could get really complicated.
2007-03-09 01:02:48 · answer #9 · answered by Tess 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You did the right thing. Being honest with him was the best thing you could do.
2007-03-09 01:08:17 · answer #10 · answered by bladeshaven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋